I have two children and both are now adults. My wife and I agreed not to tell them when they were growing up and they never found out.

There are reasons NOT to tell your children:

  1. What is your motivation for telling them? Certainly, if you are transsexual, then the decision is easy.
  2. If you do tell them, are they going to have to keep it a secret? Is that a proper burden for them?
  3. One does not have to tell their children EVERYTHING about them. And there are some things that should NOT be disclosed.
  4. There have been very few studies done about children. Of course, many kids are okay with with it and can handle it very well. However, we never hear about the ones that have problems with it. You are basically experimenting with your children if you tell them, hoping that everything turns out okay. What happens if they are not okay with it? They are trapped. They cannot divorce you like your wife can...
  5. EVERYTHING we do influences our children more than we realize. The studies that have been done do not look at the adult children that were told at various ages to see if there is any impact on them as adults...


Just my :2c:

Robyn P.