Quote Originally Posted by kathy gg
...and know what you know now about crossdressing/transgenderism and how much it means to you and your well being and overall happiness would you have told your spouse? This is a question probably more suited to those who have told with not alot of luck or those who are in the closet right now.
After dating for a period of time to be sure that the relationship was going to continue, i think that yes, i would have told her about it. But as i know now, my wife was very conservative and although i brought up the topic indirectly over the years, she thought it was a weird thing for men to do and 'not right'.

I have seen so many times said that since info was not available 10/20/30/40 years ago it was next to impossible to try to explain or even know this was something you would be doing this many years later. Also I see it said over and over that many guys thought they would have no desire and be able to quit once they got married. Of course that doesn't happen.
So true. I thought the same thing after i met my wife and got established in a relationship. All it did was to lead to more stress within myself and guilt because of the secret desires i held.

So if you could go back to the moment when you first met your wife and you are now armed with knowledge, a true sense of self would you be able to be honest and lay all the cards on the table about who you are and what this means to you?
That's a tough one! I could say yes very easily because that seems to be the correct response. However, in practice, i don't know! Despite the way you phrase the question, its still a guess because its all theory. For me, I would have had to be convinced that she would actually accept the concept in principle (not total acceptance as such) before i laid bare my whole life to the judgement of another person.


Christine