I haven't had as much time to spend here lately, so I missed Lauren's leaving... though I do recall seeing a lot less of her in recent weeks. If memory serves, she's taken breaks from crossdressing before.Originally Posted by LeslieSD
I'd like to address the title of this thread, even if it is a bit off-topic for the content of the thread opening post. Please indulge me a little.
Do I think the crossdressing community is weird?
ABSOLUTELY YES!
Without a doubt, YES!
100% WEIRD!
Ok, I'll pause for a moment to allow everyone the chance to misunderstand my answer...
Ready?
I have never, in my life, encountered an online community quite like this one before. I've browsed and been a member of various self-help forums, but this is by far the strangest mix of people and emotions I've ever seen in my life.
Where else can you find a group of people who rejoice in their differences intermixed with people who feel guilty for being themselves?
Where else can you find people who constantly question EVERYTHING they do and wonder if it's because they're a crossdresser?
Where else can you read almost constant reports of people trying to "quit" being WHO THEY ARE?
Where else can you find people arguing against the VERY THING that they in fact are - demonizing crossdressing, AS crossdresser themselves? What a load of crap - people being "self-centered BECAUSE they're a crossdresser"? Ever met a self-centered NON-crossdresser? GRRRR! Wtf?? :Angry3:
Where else do people constantly talk about how guilty they feel FOR BEING THEMSELVES?
Where else can you find more people who fear what their family will think if they find out?
I could go on and on and on, but I think this part of the point is sufficiently made.
On to part 2...
Yes, this is a very "weird" community, as in strange, different, not like anything else I've ever seen. Having said that and pointed out several reasons WHY it is so weird, can you blame anyone for any of the troubles they share daily here?
How are people SUPPOSED to react to living in a society hell bent on enforcing 1950's style "gender rules"?
How can one grow up "normal" when every element surrounding them tells them that they're a freak, sinner, a walking sickness, a pervert, and a crap-load of other negative bullsh*t?
You BET this is weird! It pisses me the hell off, too. Not because it's "weird" here, but the REASON for everyone's troubles. It's almost ALWAYS the same damn thing - the social taboo of crossdressing.
Remove the social taboo and there would be little, and probably NO cause at all for all of the confusion, self-loating, guilt and plethora of other problematic feelings expressed here daily.
It just seems so damn senseless to me... so many people suffering simply because they are who they are - NOTHING is wrong with them, and yet they are not accepted by most of society, and often their own families.
Whatever.
I'm not "normal" either. I'm "weird", too. Hell, I'm weirder. Society is relentless in it's continued naive negative perception and treatment of people like us... and I'm obsessed with changing society to end the needless suffering of my sisters. I must be pretty messed up to try and take on all of society, but maybe sometimes being a little crazy is a good thing? I don't expect to win... but I will make a positive difference, if only a small one. Won't you?
Yes, this is a weird community... almost as weird as the f*cked up society that caused it to exist as such in the first place.
