Yes, your wife is her friend. At this stage she probably doesn't want advise, she probably just wants to "vent" to her best bud.
No one else has mentioned it, but if you tell her you crossdress; her "second thought" might be that: "The next door neighbor taught my kid to be a crossdresser....he's (meaning Y-O-U) responsible!" I think she might just find the coincidence too hard to ignore.
I would leave it alone! let your wife make all the "supportive noises." She will know the appropriate time to recommend a COMPETENT Psychologist.
Peace and Love, Joanie
