No one else has mentioned it, but if you tell her you crossdress; her "second thought" might be that: "The next door neighbor taught my kid to be a crossdresser....he's (meaning Y-O-U) responsible!" I think she might just find the coincidence too hard to ignore.
I would leave it alone! let your wife make all the "supportive noises." She will know the appropriate time to recommend a COMPETENT Psychologist.
Peace and Love, Joanie[/quote]
I agree with Joanie on this one. She is your wife's friend, and your wife probably has enough understanding to help her friend the most.