My wife found a slip that I had inadvertantly left out while putting everything else away. We went to a marriage counselor, and while I'm sure everything else could have been worked out, she was just freaked by the crossdressing, and said that had she known before we got married, she never would have married me. I know she was part of an online SO support group, and was in contact with other wives of crossdressers; I overheard a few phone conversations (she would wander about the house, wearing an earphone with the cordless, and I guess she forgot that I could hear her side of the conversation), and it was pretty clear that she would never accept it; most of what I heard was how to get me to stop.