It may be hard to fess up to mother about crossdressing, but in my experience's mom's have a unique ability to understand their children better than the children understand them self.
A gift of motherhood. Be honest with her and she will understand it, and who knows it may bring you to to a new level of understanding and caring that you never had before and that would be a good thing. Your mom, may or may not appreciate your crossdressing, but I would believe she will respect your honesty, and that speaks volumes.

I also think it is harder to lie and keep track of all that, and what you told who and when and on and on and on.

Yo are so young, there is no need for you to stress yourself out for a lifetime over this, its best out in the open.