This is just something I am truly trying to grasp and understand as a FAB. I feel like my attitude, my personality, everything I TRULY am is not really feminine or female in a particular way. So why should a CDer's personality or who is really is change when he dresses? And if he acts differently when not dressed as a woman, which side is the REAL him? I feel like sometimes this is a real "Jekyll and Hyde" situation. Not to say one side is evil and the other is not, but it really seems like there are two different people sometimes.

If that is the case, isn't it unfair to the GG that she doesn't know the real person? Sure, maybe she doesn't want to know, maybe she is hoping it'll go away, but that is simply because she doesn't know any better. She can't change who she is anymore than you can and she needs to be put straight and corrected. Does that make sense?