OK maybe epiphany is way over used but I believe it to be true in this case. I went for a trip to Toronto Canada recently for some cross dressing fun. When I arrived at the border, I was asked to park my car and come inside. I was asked the cursory questions "where are you headed, how long will you be in the county, what is the purpose of your visit". I answered them all and was asked to sit down. A few minutes pass and a woman walks over to me and asks for my car keys. She is going to search my car. Well I am thinking it's just a simple search for weapons or drugs (of which I had none) and I am on my way. Well this turned out to be the most exhaustive and invasive search I have ever had. She is searching my luggage and of course she discovers all of my "girl clothes". "who do these belong to"? I lie and say they belong to my wife. More searching and she discovers my wigs and breast forms. She then says to me "these are yours right"? I mean I don't care that you wear these I just need to know why you are coming into the country". I'm thinking to myself WTF does this have to do with why I am visiting Toronto? We go back and forth and finally I say "Look, if you want to believe that stuff belongs to me, go right ahead, OK, yeah, it's mine". Finally I am on my way, but I am furious about this really invasive search. I get to Toronto and still angry, I decide not to stay. Now when I arrive at the US border, I think I am American so this shouldn't be a problem. WRONG!!!!!!!! Same thing again. Same exhaustive and invasive search. Except this time when asked about the women's clothing, wigs, breast forms........... I just say they are mine. Screw it, I don't care! So on my way home I think to myself "I am so tired hiding and of worrying about what people think about me wearing what I like,I am not hurting anyone , and if you really don't like that's just to bad! I am NOT going to be embarrassed about walking into a ladies clothing store and browsing and buying. No more lies about this is for my wife/girlfriend/mom/sister/aunt. So I went on a lil' shopping spree. The next morning I got up and drove to the Fashion Bug. No sitting in my car, waffling, walking by the store to see if it looks empty enough for me. Nope, park and walk right in. The SA walks over to me and tells me about some sales and off I go. I bought a new top,2 pairs of leggings (great sale $5.00 each) a really nice fuchsia dress and some earrings. Then I went to Nine West outlet(my favorite shoe store) and another sale going on so I bought a nice pair of suede shoes and for the first time actually tried on women's shoes in the store. Don't like it? Don't care! Lastly, I needed a strapless bra for my new dress and so went right into the Maidenform store. Another sale, panties= 3 pair for $15 so I got three pairs.I have also grown a little more bold about going out. I needed to get something from my car while I was wearing my new dress and just said to myself "oh, who cares if anyone sees me" and went outside. I do know I need to be a li' more careful about that because there are some dangers involved.