Ever so slight change in tone...

[Karren H]

From my wife at noon.. Were not talking OMG here wear this bra.. Lol. Way way way more subtle....

Well to start.. Ya know that she is always on my case about my nails being long.. And they are... And usually she is very adamant when she sees them "Those look like a girl".. Lucky for me she doesn't stay angry..

But today at noon.. After we met and ate out, setting in the van, she was showing me some things she was going to pickup at CVS.. Including some new stuff for my hair loss... And she had a coupon for $3 off hair color.. And wanted to know if I wanted any.. What brand and what color.. Which that in itself was like.. Yeah!! Told her to pick out some color you think I would look good in... And I asked her to pick up some more night cream... And she said she would. Now I'm thinking woo hoo... she's buying me beauty products!! Ohh yeah... But then I point at something in her catalog with my long nails and she makes the comment.. "Your nails are really long... Maybe you should trim them back a little... So you don't look unprofessional at work".. Wasn't the old "cut them you look like a girl" I'm used to.. Her whole tone was just different like she is getting semi-used to my semi-femininity on some semi-level..

Ohh I'm not a fool to think that I can "baby step" my way into crossdressing at home any time soon... With my luck she will be back to her antifem soapbox by the time I get home ... But it was nice to see a glimmer showing through the vast hopelessness of it all.. And maybe just maybe that as I slowly change, it just takes time for her to adjust? Slowly...

That's it... We now return you to your regularily scheduled program....

[Kimmy55]

Good Luck.My SO used to get me things on occasion and I thought she was loosening up.Didnt happen of course as she fell back into "You look stupid dressed like that" train of thought just a short time later.

[MichelleSanders]

It's a setup! Be sure to double-check the color on the box of dye before using. Don't want to be walking around with purple hair.

[meri]

I am using the baby-step approach as well. Like you I see more positive signs from my wife over time. However, her moods swing like the stock market does. Thus, the real measure is she in an uptrend or a downtrend WRT my dressing. I think it's an uptrend. However, only time will tell.

[Kimmy55]

Good Luck.My SO used to get me things on occasion and I thought she was loosening up.Didnt happen of course as she fell back into "You look stupid dressed like that" train of thought just a short time later.

[Christina Horton]

Speaking of Semi......Trucks.LOL. I think that in time like the next ice age she will be fine with it. After all with your nails you could , cut through the ice and spear up to 5 fish at a time, you could kill a grizzly bear with the night cream would hurt if smeared in the eyes, well you get the ways Eh.

I do think form what I have read of your posts that I think she is slowly come to be ok with it. After all it took my mom 17 years after I told the family at age 23 to be ok with it. So there's always hope . Remember that hun THERE'S ALL WAY HOPE. Good luck.

[Karren H]

Never mind.... She just called and said. "Hey pervert... Pickup some milk on the way home". Hahahaha.

Funny the stock market is down today.. Hope she doesn't find out how much I've lost this morning! I know she will swing back but like the market.. I can profit from short term rises and with stand short term drops as long as the over all trend is positive..

[Christina Horton]

Never mind.... She just called and said. "Hey pervert... Pickup some milk on the way home". Hahahaha.

Funny the stock market is down today.. Hope she doesn't find out how much I've lost this morning! I know she will swing back but like the market.. I can profit from short term rises and with stand short term drops as long as the over all trend is positive..

I am sure she was just playing , no worries hun.

[Kate Simmons]

Ha Ha, Well I don't think she can say too much considering all that work you just did around the house Karr.

[Paula_56]

Karen I get those glimers too, and I think maybe we are going here

But after 25 years, she will soon enough call me a pervert the next time

[carolinoakland]

I think your wife is learning how much effort it takes to be angry all the time about something. Carol

[SuzanneBender]

Never mind.... She just called and said. "Hey pervert... Pickup some milk on the way home". Hahahaha.

Funny the stock market is down today.. Hope she doesn't find out how much I've lost this morning! I know she will swing back but like the market.. I can profit from short term rises and with stand short term drops as long as the over all trend is positive..

I stopped even talking to my broker. Just makes we want to cry. In fact your posts today about how far the market dropped today brought a tear. Time to go eat some comfort food like those yummy Gates and Sons BBQ ribs to get out of the funk!

Mrs. Karren sounds like a hoot. Mine started out very accepting. I started stepping out as Suzanne a lot more she quickly turned to the dark side. The other night we were talking about her girlfirends hubby and how nice he is. She made the comment that he is so sensitive and doesn"t even need to wear a dress to be that way. OUCH! I quipped back with how do you know he doesn't. I think she is afraid she is going to come home one night and I am going to be sitting on the couch with my shirt open saying look what was on sale at the plastic surgeons office.

Women can't live without em can't be one of em.

[PetiteDuality]

Karren,

I'd suggest to please your wife and trim your nails a little bit. I think it's a fair reward for her baby-steps support.

I think she will notice and will appreciate it.

[Karren H]

Suzanne... I don't even have a broker and that and my wifes intuition.... kept me from loosing any money in the crash.. and 09 is the best year I've ever had in the market!! And that is an awesome idea, PD!!

[Hope]

When your wife shows a glimmer of hope like this - it's best to reward her ... flowers on the way home would be a great idea...

Reinforce positive behavior. I'm just saying. We might like to think that we are immune to such pavlovian conditioning - but we are not.

[skirtsuit]

"Hey pervert... Pickup some milk on the way home".

Adult mammals drinking milk is pretty preverted, if you ask me

Good luck with the wifey.
BTW, has she ever seen you fully dressed? you look beautiful in your pics so maybe if she saw the whole package she'd be more accepting? (says the never-married guy)

All the Best,
Ann / SS

[Karren H]

Adult mammals drinking milk is pretty preverted, if you ask me

Good luck with the wifey.
BTW, has she ever seen you fully dressed? you look beautiful in your pics so maybe if she saw the whole package she'd be more accepting? (says the never-married guy)

All the Best,
Ann / SS

No she has never seen me enfemme or even wanted to... I'm sure she would totally freak out if she did!!

[DinaMature]

Never mind.... She just called and said. "Hey pervert... Pickup some milk on the way home". Hahahaha.

Reading your thread, I was thinking how lucky I am... my GF is totally supportive. Cosmetics, silky/lacy sleepwear, breastforms draw no negativity.

Then I read this and I laughed... she does often call me 'pervert'.
But then, she has called me that for years.

[Jessica Who]

That's good to hear Karren, even if it was a small ray of hope

Thanks for sharing

[Ruth]

Seriously Karren, I think it would be a good idea if your wife got a look at you en femme.
My wife sees me enfemme all the time. The first time she said she was surprised how good I looked (I think she had been expecting a real fright), but basically I still look, to her, like a man in a dress, and she does not feel at all threatened by the prospect.

[Christina Horton]

No she has never seen me enfemme or even wanted to... I'm sure she would totally freak out if she did!!

Well My mom was the same way and when she saw me she said " It was not that bad." The thing that bothered her the most was my fem-voice. So YNK, EH.

[suchacutie]

I agree that it's a real shame your wife has never seen you en femme. She would be impressed, and that might lead to some understanding of why you are so comfortable with your feminine side.

For sure, we are all impressed!!!

tina

[Frédérique]

But then I point at something in her catalog with my long nails and she makes the comment.. "Your nails are really long... Maybe you should trim them back a little... So you don't look unprofessional at work".. Wasn't the old "cut them you look like a girl" I'm used to.. Her whole tone was just different like she is getting semi-used to my semi-femininity on some semi-level..

[SIZE="2"]I don’t know, Karren – sounds like the same semi-epithet, only phrased a slightly semi-different way, as if she’s trying a semi-attack on your semi-flank. Kudos, though, for being so sensitive to subtlety…

BTW, how do you get your hockey gloves on without these long nails getting in the way, or, more specifically, how do you keep them from breaking whilst cross-checking your opponent? Don’t tell me you’re a gentlemanly…er…ladylike player!?

Ahem: Boston 3, Pittsburgh 0 (11/10) What’s that? Pittsburgh 6, Boston 5 (11/14)? I don’t want to talk about that one, since I’m still in shock

OK, that’s enough boyishness for one day…[/SIZE]

[Laura_Stephens]

Karen, you are already light years beyond my situation. Good luck and and hang in there!

[Fab Karen]

No she has never seen me enfemme or even wanted to... I'm sure she would totally freak out if she did!!

Maybe if she saw one of your pics, she'd say "who's that? Are you cheating on me?!"