Sadly the whole CD/TS and marriage thing just does not go toghether most of the time. I can see the points of view from both sides. I totally know that being CD/TS is REALLY what you are!!!! I ALWAYS encourage people to do whatever it takes to be happy!!!

I believe the most important rule for transition is you have to be willing to put everything on the line! I also see this rule apply to CDs and marriage as well. If you arent willing to put it all on the line you probably are in for a really bumpy road.

From the wives perspective (mine included) (assuming she didnt know about the CD thing from the beginning of the relationship) she married a MAN. She went into the relationship expecting a man. I might add that there are some CDs (myself in the past included) that REALLY are TS but not willing to transiton at this moment in time. If you really are TS dont think for a minnute that your wives dont detect this at some point after you tell her you are CD. She then is faced with the fact she has a girl for a spouse.

I might also point out that when you tell your wife its not uncommon for this huge sense of relief and then joy and desire to include her in your CD affairs. I have said it before and see it constantly in the posts. What starts out with a CD wearing panties can easily escalate into full time presentation of girl, boob job, talk about SRS, all sorts of things the wife never would have guessed she was in for (hence the pulling back).

Not every CD does these things but its also not Uncommon!

The point is that your wife went into a relationship with certain expectations and if she is pulling away, filing for dovorce, ect. ect. then she has come to realize that these expectations are not being met!

The real important thing you have to sit down and analize is is the CD thing worth loosing everything? If it is then go for it!!! If you arent willing to put it all on the line then just remember the bumpy road.

Katie