As many have done, I started at an early age, too. Purged a couple of times. But with and accepting wife and a few friends I came out to, I am comfortable with the cd life. I probably won't ever quit and I really don't want to.
As many have done, I started at an early age, too. Purged a couple of times. But with and accepting wife and a few friends I came out to, I am comfortable with the cd life. I probably won't ever quit and I really don't want to.
Can I give up crossdressing?
Yes. I have done it dozens of times.
Then you have not truly given it up. You may have put it on hold a while but you keep coming back to it apparently.Originally Posted by Michelle_Anne
IMO crossdressing is a part of how a person is wired, just like sexual orientation (again, IMO). One doesn't choose to like the clothes of the other gender, they just do. This is just like sexual orientation, one doesn't choose what gender they are attracted to, they're wired to like a particular gender (or both in the case of bisexuals). I didn't choose to like women's clothing or be attracted to women, I just do happen to like wearing women's clothing and to be attracted to women. On the same note, my homosexual male friends didn't choose to like men, they just do. My homosexual female friend didn't choose to like women, she just does.
Once society understands this then maybe crossdressing and homosexuality will become more accepted. But I honestly doubt society will ever accept these things fully, especially crossdressing.
Honestly? No i couldnt i have come to the point in life where as i know this is me and am very content and happy. If i was 20 yrs younger i would more than likely be living fulltime as a female.
Won't give up something I love doing, even if it's behind closed doors most of the time.
Never ... Why would I want to give up something so important to me!
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recently about crossdressing. Like, why do I do it? But I've always liked women's clothes and makeup always noticed fashion, always envied women for their creative expression in creating a "look". As an artist that impressed me. Anyway, I tried giving it up and did sometimes for years because I knew it upset my wife (now that I'm separated it's different) and because it seemed like such a chore to hide it and prepare myself when I had so many other interests.
But why does it come back? Why can I not give it up? Because it lies at the center of my identity as a feminine male. I like being male but I'm very feminine though good at pretending to be very masculine. I don't want to pretend so why give it up? Why give it up until I really want to give it up? There's something very mysterious and profound about the whole gender-bender adventure we are on. Let's see where it leads.
Can you give up crossdressing?
Absolutely no!
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
I've suppressed it many times. but not anymore. I'm getting too old to fight it.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Constantly and more each day. Been having some real ups and downs lately.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
I gave a little freedom to the girl in me and she has completely taken control. She is fierce!
Is it still a big secret?
Unfortunately yes. It's my biggest hurdle at present.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Always. Mind, body and soul.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Right now I'm in need mostly but I would love to help others. I care too much of everyone.
Don't know if I could give up dressing. I think it is apart of who I am and I become miserable and stressed if I go for long periods without doing it. Just going out dressed for an evening can put me in a happier more relaxed mood for days.
I am convinced that I can give it up but the incentive to do it (give it up) has to be better than the incentive not to give it up and I don't see that happening.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No and that is the key, It I really wanted to I could, but I really like the way I feel and for the most part look.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Crossdressing has made me the person that I am. I have been dressing and wanting to be girlish since I can first remember at 4 or 5, maybe younger
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Because of the way it makes me feel. I like the feeling of the clothes as well as how I feel dressed. It is an escape for me. It helps releave the stress of being a man. I feel that most of the time I am a very Inadequate man.
Is it still a big secret?
Yes only my wife and few family members know
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Yes, I just like it.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Yes that is what this site is all about isn't it :-).
BWOemerger
i think if it was wrong i could, but its not so i wont
Personally, I have never been able to give up crossdressing even when I was married (twice).
Now it is part of who I am, so why would I want to give that up.
As for the difficulty in quitting crossdressing perhaps it is because it is
hard wired into our brains
It is pretty much a secret at this time, I have a couple female friends that know but that is the extent.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Without a doubt.
Will I always be a crossdresser?
More than likely.
Just joining this forum was a huge step for me, helping someone else who is a crossdresser or TG?
I certainly hope I can
NO have tried always come back Love to crossdress.
I've tried but it's who I am and it's never going away. Plus I love it!
I never gave up cross dressing... I just take breaks from it once in a while which is my case now. I've taken several breaks before the longest lasting 6 months. I've gone about 4 months now. I miss it but I know its not the end. Its going to feel amazing when I do start up again.
I once thought that you could, but then I read, "once a cross dresser, always a cross dresser", and the realization hit me like a tonne of bricks...
I tried several times to quit and it just doesn't go away. I have come to terms with it. There are days I hate it (like when I see a size 3 beautiful dress and I know I will never fit into it) but it's how I am. I have a close freind that is very supportive of me dressing and have become a bit more confident in it. I may be still in the closet to all but a small handfull of people, but that's where the clothes are
Can I give up cross dressing?
Sure, we all die someday.
Oh wait, I want to be cremated in a dress and heels!
So NOPE!
I want to meet the maker and look them in the eye dressed like that and say really? This is the vision you had for me, so here it is :D
"Originally Posted by Anne66"
It's store policy: whatever you're looking for, that's what they're out of. And the chances of finding it are in inverse proportion to how much you want it.
If it were a matter of absolute survival, sure I could give it up. But there would be consequences- I would drink too much, eat too much, become a generally bitchy person all around. I wouldn't want to, though.
I make a CHOICE to dress. We all do. I feel that I am a better person when I have the opportunity to present myself as Robin a couple of times a month. When I deny myself that time, for whatever reason, I become depressed and angry. Still, it is a choice.
I have heard that the crossdressing desire lasts for about 900 years.
Whenever I have worn a skirt in male mode, there have never been any issues at all.
ahhh no.
without even thinking about the idea, no i cant. ive been dressing since the age of 12 and its now become over the years a very big part of my life. i am the female i cant see in the mirror every morning.
I tried to purge once and luckily I just stored averything away, that lasted a month, surprised I made it that long. I am a widower and lost my wife of 37 years to cancer. So as time goes on I have attempted to meet a new lady but the rejections have been nearly 100% so I thought if I purged then I wuldn't have to explain my self. Ya know what I am always happiest when dressed even with all the tragedy of the last few years. So I would never quit again and Yes, the older I get the more I want to be dressed all the time.
Shirley
Can you give up crossdressing?
I've barely just begun, so... I guess? I dunno, after my initial stint with it, stuck in my brain pretty deeply and I fantasized about it until I did it again.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
Not at all. I have a loving, supporting GF and brother who know and it will be just a matter of time til my family knows, so I am on my way to fully embracing it.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Certainly. It's going to become a part of my life, if only a small part for now, but it's putting my confidence through quite the trial.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Dunno. People like what they like.
Is it still a big secret?
Not really, the most important people in my life know.
Will you always be a crossdresser?
I have no idea.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Perhaps, once I am more learned in the subject.
its funny to think that none of us know the answer to why we crossdress but at the end of the day we can not stop it if we tried , and the mail thing in most posts is that we dont want to stop it .
it makes us what we are,so it does affect us, i have tried a few times to quit but no more as now i know it will be with me till i die,but thats also because i like it so much .
i have kept it a secret unti now but i want to come out now , so i know how hard it is keeping things bottled up so i of cause would help other crossdresseds if i could .
Can you give up crossdressing?
Now that I have accepted it as part of me & not shameful, I could if I needed to for a really good reason.
Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No, not really at all. I don't think I'd want to even for a GG.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Oh yes. I think I'm already a better & happier person for accepting it as a true part of me.
Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
If I knew that I could probably stop. I'd say it is because it is fun, and secret & part of me.
Is it still a big secret?
Pretty big. Only my mom & psychiatrist know so far. And of course all my sisters on here!!
Will you always be a crossdresser?
Most likely unless I end up having SRS. Which would only be after getting married & having children & being a father for a few years. Then I'd be a woman.
Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
As soon as I get myself sorted out, yes I will. I want to reach out to other Christians (and anyone else) who feel that what they are doing is wrong. Not to convince them that they have to do it, but that they determine where the shame is actually coming from. There is a Christian suicide/depression hotline that is housed very near where I live & I would love to help out there. And make the pharmacy I work at be CD/TG friendly. (I know we already have a couple there & many homosexual male & lesbians.)
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