A little over a year ago, I thought my daughter was heterosexual. I was trying at the time to figure out how to tell my daughter about my being transgendered. Well, at that time frame my views on gay people was simply, that it was wrong, it is a sin. My view then was I thought very negatively towards gay people, especially gay men. I wanted nothing to do with them. Well when my daughter told me over a year ago that she had new girlfriend, it did take me by surprise. But I heard in her voice a fear of telling me about her new girlfriend, she was afraid thinking I would take it as badly has her mom (we are divorced >10 yrs) did. Well part of me was disappointed, but I love my daughter much more. I told her that it was okay and that her girlfriend is welcome in my home and is accepted by me and her choice is hers alone. This opened the door for me, to tell her about me. And she is so accepting and supportive of me.

The point being, till it hit me personally at home with my daughter, the question of gay people and how I respond to them is very different now. I still believe what the Bible says about homosexuality being wrong, but I won't look at a Gay person as evil anymore, they are a sinner just like me. I can love them now for the person they are. So in a way till it hits home for your parents in a personal way their views may never change.

I didn't stop loving my daughter because she told me she was lesbian. In fact I was able to love her more because she was able to trust me. Our relationship has grown much stronger in the last year. So in short don't be afraid of talking with your parents, they will continue to love you, they may not understand fully or right away, but they will still love you. Don't let their viewpoints scare you in not being yourself. Kimberly