Can you give up crossdressing?

[bridget jones]

I don't believe I can give up crossdressing,believe me I have tried several times.I don't understand why I have the urge but I do and always have since the first panties I put on.I often questioned GOD "why me?".I am not comfortable being "out there yet".I do however enjoy chatting with my friends on this site and I'm happy to do so.I have so many things to ask and understand.I have struggled with CD'ng all my life and still have so many questions that need to be answered.The thing that amazes me is how comfortable and relaxed I am in heels and hose while most I know GG's hate the idea of having to dress like that.I do know I am most relaxed and comfortable when completely dressed which makes me ask"why was I not born a GG?"

[Julieanne]

Can you give up crossdressing?
No. No more than I can give up being tall.

Do I want to give up crossdressing?
In many ways life would be easier, but since I’ve always been a crossdresser I have no idea of life without being one. But no, it’s too much a part of who I am. I would still be a crossdresser even if I never dressed again.

Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
It goes both ways. Crossdressing affects who I am and who I am affects my crossdressing. It relaxes me.

Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
It’s difficult since I’m only out to my family, but as a teacher (“schoolmarm”) I talk with a lot of students, and I am sensitive to sex and gender identity issues. Either crossdressing gives me greater insight, or the greater insight feeds into my crossdressing, or, more likely, both.

Julieanne

[mmandy31]

I tried so many times to give up crossdressing i gave up.
I would say this is it and get rid of everything but that lasted about a week because i would see something that i like and go buy it and start all over again so now if i have the urge to quit i put everything away for awhile until i am ready to dress again .

[LauraKCD]

There is no doubt that I am with the majority here

[Angie G]

I have had long breaks when I was younger. But no I could not and would not want to stop cross dressing. After coming out to my wife 4 years ago I need not even think of stopping she's great about it.
Angie

[vivianann]

I have tried to give up crossdressing, a few times, the longest stretch was 11 yrs, but it took its tole on me, I went into a deep depression, and it destroyed everything I had worked so hard to attain. it was Jan 2006 when I was in my deepest despair and alot of soul searching that I finally crossdressed for the first time in 11 yrs, it was the the first time in a long time that I felt like I have come home to my true self, it was like the chains of depression was finally broken, I have come along way from that moment on, I have since come out to family and friends, I am enfemme almost everyday, sometimes because of work I may not be able to cd for a week or more at a time, and yes it does cause me to start getting depressed, so I need to dress to keep my sanity. So the answer is no I cannot give up crossdressing, it is a way of life for me, and it brings much happiness and fulfilment to my life. There is only one drawback to crossdressing, it makes it much harder to find a wife.

[Cheryl T]

Can I give it up?...I think so

Do I want to and will I ever try to ... NEVER, EVER!!

I am Cheryl and Cheryl is me. There is no separating my feminine self from my being. As others have said, the older I get the more I need to express this ingrained part of my being. I would never give it up any more than I would try to cut off my arm or leg.

It's taken years to become who I am and I love me!

At last I have no guilt, no remorse, no shame and I will not turn my back on that struggle to find who I really am and was meant to be.

[Tiff Rivera]

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I've tried many times to quit. Did I succeed? No

In the last year, I've had a lot of reflection time and I began reading journals I've written over the years. And I found a direct correlation on my unhappiness with myself that always seemed to coincide with the times I quit.

I realized, these thoughts were not just thoughts, these were feelings of who I am. If this is who you are inside, IMHO, to quit would be to deny your inner self, the true you. So why fight it?

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[MissAmy]

Do I want to give up crossdressing?

I want to be normal so I woudln't have to live in the closet. But I can't change it so no

Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?

It has in many ways, but has never changed me really as a person

Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?

Because women's clothes feel so good

Is it still a big secret?

Oh yeah, but I plan to come out in June.


Will you always be a crossdresser?

Yes

Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?

I wish I knew some locally I could meet.

[Raychel]

Do I want to give up crossdressing?

Not really, This is a part of my life that I actually enjoy, Why would I want to give up one of the very few things that I enjoy

Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
Sure it has affected my life. If it weren't for those time when I get to dress and just relax, then I probably would have gone completely crazy by now.

Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
Because it is a big part of my life and one that does not give me too much stress

Is it still a big secret?
Too big of a secret. My wife knows. But that is about it.

Will you always be a crossdresser?
Pretty sure that I will be till the day I die.

Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
Probably not, Still pretty deep in the closet.

[Loni]

give it up.....why?

it is me.

would love to help if I can,
but for now Loni is trying the next big jump for her.
she has pocked her head out a bit, now it is time for a walk down main st.

as another said " the older I get, the more it is" or something like that.

when the spring dresses come out and the days have warmed up a bit, Loni is going shopping dressed....no more need to shop in drab.

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[Jason+]

Can I give up crossdressing?

Can I make the conscious decision to never put on another article of feminine clothing ever again? Yes. Could I ever reach a point where I didn't wish I still did or want to? Could I ever walk through a store and see things I would have liked and not want for them? No, not any easier than I could remove note by note every piece of music I've ever played or heard. If I made that decision to not wear another thing could I be strong enough not to eventually let bitterness and unhappiness bring as much negativity as the clothes may have? I am not sure I could.

Do I want to give up crossdressing?

Sometimes when it has been the big red bull's eye that was easier to attack than the actual issue.

Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?

It has to. It's made me take a hard look at who and what I am and what I'm willing or not willing to be.

Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?

While I don't know for sure if it's something I was born with or not I do believe there is some basic component of my personality that allows me to be softer and more gentle and nurturing. I feel it is that same softness that allows for the wearing of a dress rather than running screaming in the opposite direction.

Is it still a big secret?

The people whose opinion really matter know. My parents, my wife and the kids that live with me. Some of my co-workers know or at least suspect but it's not out in the open at work at all.

Will you always be a crossdresser?

Probably up until the point where putting on a skirt and heels isn't crossdressing any more. :D

Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?

All are welcome to any help or comfort I can offer.

[Molly17]

I stopped when I was younger for a while, but I couldn't fight it for long. It's had such a huge effect on my life, and I don't think I can stop (I hope I won't stop, too)

[LeeBe]

Can you give up crossdressing?
No

Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No, in the earlier years I tried, I'm most here would agree you don't loose the desire.
Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?
I'm sure it has, but it is the sum total of who I am.

Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?
I believe I am just wired that way, you just can't give up something that is a key piece of you.
Is it still a big secret?
None of my "regular" friends know.... at least I don't think they know.

Will you always be a crossdresser?
Never dabbled in it until I was on my own, I always would wonder what it would be like to wear dresses. I originally did not understand my secret desire to dress in women's clothes, I guess that's where the seeds sprouted from.

Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?
I feel I am still at a point where I get advice rather than give advice. If someone needed my help, I would gladly give it.

[serinalynn]

No, I don't believe I can quit Crossdressing. It's part of who I am am who I became. I am hooked for life. I love the soft feel of womans clothing.

[VS Fan]

Can you give up crossdressing?

Personally, I don't think so.

Do I want to give up crossdressing?

Definitely not.

Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?

Not in any negative ways, but it has definitely impacted my life for the better... nothing major, but it's lots of fun.

Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?

It's either an addiction or just simply part of who I am... one is called an addiction for a reason.. and the other is something you can't really do much about. And since it's not a harmful addiction (unlike smoking which I quit years ago) I figure what the heck!?!

Is it still a big secret?

Well, out to the wife now for a couple months, otherwise still a secret, and will probably remain that way. I have driven en femme before on long trips, but that is about the extent of my "outings/outness."


Will you always be a crossdresser?

I suspect so... Had it not been for this forum I would have thought that when I got older (I'm mid 30s now) that the need would dwindle, but after seeing all the folks here in their "golden years" I look forward to this even more so when I'm able to do it without worrying about the kids


Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?

Absolutely... I might not "out" myself in the process, but I would not fear any public ridicule over helping someone in need regardless of the circumstances.



VS Fan

[Rianna Humble]

Can you give up crossdressing?

Frankly no. I gave up trying after too many years in denial.

Do I want to give up crossdressing?

You might just as well ask if I want to give up living.

Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?

Yes, it has released me from tensions due to the denial, but at times has caused me other tensions - especially when I have been in a pink fog

Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?

Because it is hardwired into my being

Is it still a big secret?

More so than I would like

Will you always be a crossdresser?

I may give up being a crossdresser a few years after I die. Alternatively, if I get to the stage where I need to transition, I may no longer consider myself a crossdresser once I am fully woman

Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered?

I already do

[Samantha B L]

I can't quit. I've tried. I purged several times years ago and it was a big waste of money. I threw away clothes of mine in the seventies and the eighties that nowadays go for big money on Ebay and in Vintage clothing stores. I would have to quit if they made it illegal or threatened to shoot me but I would still think of myself as a crossdresser and I would be good and p_____ o__ about the whole thing and I would look for ways to make myself heard and I would argue the point.

[jasmine57]

I'm like everyone else here. No I can't quit. And more importantly I don't even want to try anymore. For a long time I felt like there was something wrong with me because I liked to crossdress. Now I figured out that the only time something is wrong is when I don't. I don't dress every day as much as I'd like to go 24/7 but I probably dress at least 5 times a week because of the situation I'm in. I feel like something is missing when I'm not dressed but it goes a lot deeper than that. Anyways to make a long story short- NO I can;t give it up.

[Jason+]

I can't quit. I've tried. I purged several times years ago and it was a big waste of money. I threw away clothes of mine in the seventies and the eighties that nowadays go for big money on Ebay and in Vintage clothing stores. I would have to quit if they made it illegal or threatened to shoot me but I would still think of myself as a crossdresser and I would be good and p_____ o__ about the whole thing and I would look for ways to make myself heard and I would argue the point.

Samantha if they made it illegal I would have to hide like normal; if they threatened to shoot me I guess I'd have to decide what my funeral outfit would be. Knowing the :D sarcastic me it would be the black lace dress my wife calls "Grandma's Funeral Dress."

[eluuzion]

Could I give up crossdressing?
No, but I could and do "supress or conceal" it enough to avoid any social consequences for myself or others.

Do I want to give up crossdressing?
No

Do I feel my crossdressing has affected me?

Yes, from the day I began and will continue to for life.

Why is crossdressing so difficult to stop?

It is a paraphilia and has all the normal characteristics. It has a deeply "engrained" origin, compulsive nature and very low success rate in eliminating it from a person's core behavior ritual.

Is it still a big secret?
Yes, aside from the internet world.

Will you always be a crossdresser?
Yes, at a minimum.

Would you ever reach out to help others who are crossdressers or transgendered

Isn't that what we are all doing here?

[jacques]

hello,
could I give up - probably not - but why would I want to?
I do wish I could stop shopping though (just for a while)!
luv, J

[Karen564]

Yes, I finally gave it up for good last August...So I no longer CD as a man & never will again...

That's what you wanted to know, right??...

[sissystephanie]

Why in the world would I want to? I have been doing it for well over 60 years, so why stop now? If the right person asked me to, I would stop immediately! But she has told me that she would never ask me to stop dressing as a female! I love her!!

[NathalieX66]

I have a serious question:
Why would anyone want to defy what one's imagination and human spirit conjures if it is not hurting or affecting someone else? Did your brain do something to you cause you to embarrass yourself?
A clothing designer sits at a table to design something that was intended to make women look attractive to men in order to have his/her company dole out a nice paycheck.
Secondly, if crossdressing is so controversial, why do we continue to base our judgement on what a lot of the public thinks, when that chunk of the population has zero ...."0" understanding exactly what crossdressing is, and why men do it?
Men....ugh!!!