[SIZE="2"]Have any of you girls had these experiences?
First; while out dressed en femme have you ever tried picking up a GG and did you have any luck?..........
As for me, no never even tried to pick up a GG while en femme.
Second; while out dressed en femme has a guy ever tried to pick you up and did he have any luck?........
As for me, yes {many years ago & just once} a guy tried and yes he got lucky.
Well, just sitting around thinking...guess I have to much time on my hands.
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[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] Susan V. Adams
I'm married, so I don't try to pick anyone up. I have been persued I guess you can say. I usually feel very aquward about it. I have no interest in guys but I don't want to hurt anyone either. I do have to say this though, I cant believe how persistant some guys can be. There was one incident where I thought I was going to have to beat a guy up because he was wayyyyy too agressive. Other than that one guy it wasn't too bad though. One kept trying to get my phone number, the other that I can remember kept asking me to dance with him, I said no, he asked why, I said I was with my wife, he said, "So?". The whole time he was talking he was also rubbing his belly button in a very creepy disturbing way.
Hello Susan!
Yes, I have been asked out, asked to dance and did even go out on a date once. This gender bending stuff is confusing. We try to be the best most feminine girls we can be, but get carried away. The end result is that when you are supposed to be a woman when sex is started, it is really just two men! Not womanly at all.
Charlie
I think about it all the time, but in reality I'm not sure if I could go through with it.
That seems like of of the last two steps that are the hardest go to.
Only when dressed though.
And not with a guy but just as a GG.
I'm happily married now and would never cheat on my wife, but in my younger, wilder days when I used to go out dressed in NYC I had encounters with men, other CDs, and GGs. Not all my adventures were good ones, but each type certainly had its charms, not the least of all with men. Sure there are a lot of creeps out there, but there are also a lot of sweet guys whose tastes just happen to run toward CDs.
There was something so fulfilling, so validating about being held by a man, being in the woman's role, being "taken" if you will. For me it was the ultimate feminine feeling, and there are times when I miss it-- but never enough to hurt the people I love.
That said, I still get turned on at intimate times with my wife when I think to myself that I've experienced things from her angle and how that felt. She doesn't know the kind of wild stuff I did before I met her (and for all I know or care, she was equally wild) and I think it's better that way... I'd hate for her to find out there are certain... arcane skill sets that her husband might do better than her
Its not too bad getting with a guy enfemme, you just gotta hope its the right one, and he treats you well, cause a few wont. You also realise in this position how women really do get treated by men. I've had some "horror" ones who only think of themselves and are very persistant.
However, the ones who invite you up for a dance are usually the best ones.
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]I love my gorgous flowing evening and ball gowns. I love swishing in them, and feeling how beautiful and shimmering they are. I love to feel like a princess. I love to be elegant, feminine and ladylike.
I would love to have the experience as I think it would be special and neat. I have talked with guys before and many of them are persistent, which to me can be a turn on as well as off. My fear has always been what if they just want to hurt me so I have never acted on it. So lately I have thought it would be cool to meet a guy that could handle both sides.
I think it would just be nice to be with a nice man and be his woman.
I have done it several times and it has been wonderful. The men have treated me as a woman, they were courteous, affectionate, and I loved being out in public with a man as my date. The private times were very special.
I tried it when I was 21. Wanted to find out if I was gay since I crossdressed. Went to a gay bar. Didn't like the guys. Found a CDer. Went home with her and went all the way. In retrospect, I didn't care for it much. When the clothes came off, it was a let down since she wasn't a woman anymore. I can't be a guy with a guy. I've never fantasized about that. But, I do admit to fantasizing about being a woman during sex with my partner being a woman, or once in awhile, a man. That's why I believe that my sexual desire is part female as well as my gender identity. If I was a guy wanting guys, I'd say I was bi. But, I find that definition insufficient to cover my gender issues.
Legz, you are close to what I see myself right this minute, but I'm still confused fifty years later. I always considered myself a heterosexual CDer until about 8 years ago. Now I'm not sure.
I always check out women in real life but only dream of being a woman with a straight man. I think I would consider myself autogynophilia transsexual at this moment in time. But I am married and will probably never act on my desires.
And contrary to what I just said, if I could pick from a beautiful girl, a beautiful CDer and a handsome man; I would pick in that same order though the sex with the GG would as a lesbian. It's complicated.
I would not be interested in dating men. However, I would be interested in dating a crossdresser/TG. However, she'd have to be attractive and of course "passable." Fortunately, there's quite a few of those on these boards. That's why I have a lot of "crushes" on so many of you.
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Hi Christine, wonderful heartfelt post. Reading the lines and between the lines I find your experience not much different than my own. My loneliness has been greatly reduced by the development of Tara, (parent of four kids). We are exceptional in our androgyny and our desire to express it, gender is not important, the heart of the parternership is.
I fantasize about being at a dimly lit bar sharing a drink with a male and then hitting the dance floor , but I'm not interested in going beyond that.
[SIZE=3]Merinda[/SIZE]
No, I'm not referring to any body part, naughty-minded people, I'm referring to Pornography, which everyone watches but no one admits to watching.
I think it's relevant to this discussion to wonder how many people on this forum watch TV porn and fantasize about themselves being the 'female' participant, how many fantasize about being the 'male' participant, and how many just go "Eeuuww!" at the whole concept.
I'm not stating a preference because I won't admit to watching porn on the internet, even tho in my nightly prayers to Whomever it May Concern I hope that no one ever subpoenas my ISP browsing records or confiscates my hard drive.
200 posts in this thread.
what's that tell you?
And thats just fine, I found it very interesting reading the replies on this thread. It really does confirm the research that has been done on us. I am one of the "bisexual" type. I love to be the total girl fully dressed when with a man. I have NO desire to have an emotional relationship with a guy, and only have sex with a "top" guy. So I guess you could say that I use them for my sexual pleasure. . .lol (but I also give pleasure to them). When I have sex with a gg, allot of times I will fantasize that I am her, which I thought I was the only one who did this. It was a relief when I found out I was not alone . . . As a note, hygiene is important and safe guards for STD's should be considered !!!
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Life is Beautiful . . . . Dress Accordingly
"I have NO desire to have an emotional relationship with a guy, and only have sex with a 'top' guy." Hmmm...
I have several really good guy friends. We have fun together in the usual male way, but only a couple of them know about my other life (such as it is). Then there's this one fellow I've only known a few years but we have a lot in common and have gotten pretty loose -- we even skuffle with each other, both of us laughing. And occasionally watch TV together sitting on his sofa.
OK. Here's the deal. I could easily, easily see myself being a girl with him. Getting myself all dolled up (and for me that means garter belt, panties, nylons and heels) and... watching TV and movies on that sofa. Snuggling up against him. Him putting his arm around me. Him putting his hand up my dress. Him stroking my thigh. My falling in love with him... as a girl.
But... sex? I dunno. That would be... OK, maybe. But see, I'm one who wants the love, the emotional thing first. If this situatuion should ever happen -- and I find myself getting excited -- I'd be prepared to take it from there I suppose. And I do know what it means to be "topped" but I have to see that as pretty far down the line for me.
But, again... I dunno...
gracee
I guess I classify myself as bi-curious. I am without a doubt attracted to women, but I am not repulsed by the thought of being with a guy.
I don't think I could see myself in a relationship with a guy though. I think for me, it would just be sex. But then again, I've never tried, so I have no idea. I'd probably just go with the flow, but circumstances would have to be right for me to do it, and that is one of the reasons I haven't yet. Plus, the fear of potential STDs.
I have had a few encounters with men, some great others not so much. I loved the attention I got and gave. It is a learning experience just like anything else! I will say that I'm not totally into just men, I'm into the ladies very much also.