I do not agree with the previous posters. I believe you can feel violated if you want to. After all, this is how YOU feel, not how others would feel in your place.
I disagree, one can not be violated when one posts in an open forum for the whole world to see. Even if the username wasn't given, the g/f could have easily found this board, found her posts by recognising her in her picture.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.