Yay!

[NiCo]

Hi J*,
(old name) has requested that I email you this to tell you something that could potentially shock you. (old name) is trans-gendered just like I am and wishes to transition to male. He told me a long time ago, I have known since we were both children but of course it’s been kept quiet because he’s been scared how you would react. The thing is, he’s seen how loving my parents were towards me before I told them and they were open minded towards trans-gendered people [my mum had a trans-woman friend] and then when they discovered I was male, they disowned me…you’ve seen how my mum is acting about it all, refusing to accept Nicholas exists…well, he has the same concerns.
He feels like you will feel disappointed and angry with him, after all he is suppose to be your only “daughter” and felt for a long time that he had to live up to that. He can’t do it anymore. He’s told me to write this email because he can’t bring himself to do it and cracked today and told me to just get it over and done with because he can’t handle it anymore and wants to get the ball rolling as soon as possible.
He’s sorry if you do feel very upset and angry with him, he wanted to try his best and live how he was expected to, but he can’t go fooling anyone anymore nor lying to those he loves. He’s about to have a nervous breakdown.
Also to let you know, our relationship is not over, I always knew he was male and I always respected that, after all I know exactly how he feels =[ I have treated him like a man when we are in private because I didn’t want people to click on about him, exposing him to potential hate, or uncomfortable questioning.
I’m sorry if this seems sudden and shocking to you. I really am sorry but I know exactly how he has felt over these last few months watching me progressing in transition life, while he’s stood still looking on. It’s been hard. And I know it will be hard for you, and for his little brother C* and everyone else directly involved but know that I will stand by him no matter what he chooses. I love him.
He’s requested I mention that it would probably be good not to contact him for a few days, he’s scared of your reaction, and he’s really nervous about it all…but feel free to contact me, perhaps he might soften if he realises everything is okay with you?
Anyway, I’ll leave you to process this. Take care and I apologise if this has upset you, it was neither of our intentions. I promise.
Nic x

Damn you have exposed me to be a big softy really! I have a reputation to uphold! =[

(old name) I wont pretend this is not a shock, I’m saddened you could not talk to me and a little hurt! But I love you very much and always will no matter what happens. P.s- I want my dress back x

HAHAHAAA I thought this was f*cking awesome! You’re mum really does crack me up! Funny as! :D

Oh and even though I was there when you got the reply I’d like to say here that I’m really pleased you got the reaction you hoped for. You're very fortunate, because as you get to know a few people on here you’ll realise they weren’t so lucky. Cherish it. I’m sure you already know that.

NiCo is very supportive.

Of course I am, you have been supportive of me and I understand exactly how you feel because I’m feeling the same about myself. I’ll always stand by you, relationship or not. We have been friends for 15 years, we’ll be friends forever no doubt.

I’m so happy for you x

[pamela_a]

Congratulations Marc. It's a huge step. Best of everything to you.

[WalT]

Congratz on how well the coming out process is going for you! Can't lie, I'm a little jealous because I know I probably can't expect the same amount of understanding and, well, chillax from my parents, especially my father. I'm sorta dreading it because I know I'll have to come out to them, but I know the sooner it's done after I get my letter and start T the better. I guess it'll give me more reason to actually get an apartment with my partner.

[Sheila]

great news Marc

Nico you are a star

[AllieSF]

Thanks for sharing this momentous occasion with us. I congratulate both of you and your Mom. That is what friends and family are for. Good luck.