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    So it's basically just how I suspected, people have different reasons for posting and want different feedback in return and there's just no way of pleasing everyone.

    From what I gather, the safest way to go about it would be to post a positive comment in the thread itself both for encouragement and support, as well as number of posts, followed by a PM asking if they'd like a few suggestions/tips instead of making suggestions right away. Then make sure those tips are put in a way that's thoughtful and helpful, therefore easier to swallow without feelings being hurt.

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    [SIZE=4]I walk a very fine line most of the time. I work on women doing their hair and makeup and am asked daily about their looks. It is a different situation because they don't change their entire gender role, and they expect honest feedback from us so-called professionals. [/SIZE]
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    [SIZE=4]On this forum I will only comment in a general fashion and generally only when I really see some one doing a good job. Since I know how much effort it takes to get ready and how the pink fog envelops us to the point that we can't see, I tend to hold some of my comments to myself.[/SIZE]
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    [SIZE=4]Now, if you are a client or a friend and you ask what I think, I will give you my professional opinion and show you how I would change your look, but, I do use tact and approach each person to the level at which they can accept constructive support.[/SIZE]
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    [SIZE=4]We all appreciate positive comments and cherish them but stinging criticism is what we really remember.[/SIZE]
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    Moe,

    Although we got off to a rocky start, I must say I find your honesty refreshing, and honest feedback from a real woman is very precious...I usually bite my tongue if the look is tragic, although I agree that sugercoated feedback does a disservice to girls who are trying to improve their look. It's a dilemma!

    Cissy

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    Quote Originally Posted by windycissy View Post
    Moe,

    Although we got off to a rocky start, I must say I find your honesty refreshing, and honest feedback from a real woman is very precious...I usually bite my tongue if the look is tragic, although I agree that sugercoated feedback does a disservice to girls who are trying to improve their look. It's a dilemma!

    Cissy
    That's nice to hear, and I agree, it's a pretty huge dilemma, but I think I've found the "right" way to go about it.
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    I think Rhonda Jean nailed it. Too many of us see what we want to see in the mirror just like too many of the American Idol wanabees hear what they want to hear. Then there are the truly beautiful among us (present company excepted) who know they are drop dead gorgeous and enjoy the well deserved adulation.

    My guess is the best way to address the question of responding to those wishing for miracles is the classic "damning with faint praise". Little real value but preserving the dignity.

    Sometimes reality is the most difficult path to follow...........

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    Whether provided in an open forum or via private message, honest feedback is essential to me. If I post a pic, I consider it fair game for anyone who has an opinion to chime in. That feedback will either send me back to the drawing board to improve or scrap a particular look, or help me decide whether or not it's ready for the general public.

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    I'd like to thank you all for contributing, it's really helped me feel more comfortable with trying to help those of you that wish it. - Not to mention easier to tell apart those that want honest feedback from those that don't without having to step on too many toes.
    It also helps that some have decided to come to me rather than me seeking them out, and I'm having lots of fun looking at pictures and making suggestions.

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