Not true at 66 my eyes are just fine, well it is getting hard to put on eye liner with out a magnifying glass, but I'm not blind yet!Originally Posted by highheelqueen
Tina B.
Not true at 66 my eyes are just fine, well it is getting hard to put on eye liner with out a magnifying glass, but I'm not blind yet!
Tina B.
I think that for one I am not alone and two it sounds like there is a light at the end of the tunnel so i will just let jennifer come out when i can and quit tring so hard to put her away ( its driving my crazy ) I love to dress more than the you know it just seems to happen at the end of the day but i will try some of the ideas i have heard and i hope someday i can get the chance to help one of you or someone else as you all have I JUST WANT TO SAY THANK YOU SO MUCH AGAIN you just dont know how much you have helped
LOVE YOU ALL
Jennifer
You defensively are not crazy, if you were then i think most of us would be crazy.
[SIZE="2"]It means nothing. I’m a male, and I’m not attracted to males (unless they’re crossdressers, darling), but it’s a complex issue. When I’m dressed, I strive to be attractive to myself and leave it at that, but males are never on my mind. That’s the point. It’s hard to explain – let’s just say I bring my inner self to the surface a little more and paint myself OUT of a corner. How can I hate myself when I look the way I wish to look? For me, there is no other reason to dress than to be happy. If you have the desire to dress, and you do, why not just do that and leave the thinking to others?[/SIZE]
You are not crazy. You are going through some crazy times and with any luck that will pass. Sooner or later you will find out what all of this means to you. Hopefully it doesn't take too long
:fairy1:Put a little lipstick on you'll feel better:fairy3:
But it's a GOOD kind of crazy...Yes, I am afraid it does mean you are crazy. that DSM IV has a whole chapter devoted to this.
I know it isn't want you wanted to hear but yep, you are nuttier than a squirrel turd.
The guilt is something we learn early in life. We're socialized into thinking this is something we SHOULD feel guilty about. It takes time, but it CAN be un-learned...at some point in our journey through this funny little thing called life. The guilt and shame that you feel is a learned behavior that we are taught from the very beginning. It keeps a lot of analysts well-paid for a long, long time.
With that being said, it would be reasonable to assume that it can also be "un-learned" if it becomes a problem. A natural need to express one's sexuality is not a problem area, so long as it is kept in proper balance. Nah, you're not crazy, you're just looking for the best way to accept who and what you are, and move on to bigger and better things.
Or, I could be totally wrong, and we're all Bozos on this bus!
"I dress as a woman, so I MUST be gay..." is something I think most of us have struggled with. But contrary to popular opinion it just aint so. Again, this is something drilled into us at such a young age it's hard to escape. Sure, some of us here are gay, but most are not. Some fall someplace in between. It's up to you to find out were you fall on the gay/straight continuum.
Just have fun and be guilt free (as far as the crossdressing goes anyway...)!
Mina Lost aka Lynda
Don't think of yourself as "crazy", think of yourself as a
"sanity engineer". There, all better...
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
I dress and want to go the next step or a least fantasize about it.
I don't like lumpy, hairy and smelly male bodies.
But I think about being a total sexual woman.
I feel pulled in all directions also.
I feel the same way as well. I have never acted on those fantasies and I think that is best. I think I only enjoy it in fantasy, and that if I were to act on it I would not enjoy it. I thought I wanted to actually do it once and got very close when I realized that I didn't want to go through with it. It taught me alot about my sexuality.
This so close to how i feel about men I just could not express it so well
Jennifer
When I was quite a bit younger, I used to have fantasies about having a woman force me to dress as a girl and have sex as a girl either with a guy or with her using a strap on. I figured out that my feeling guilty about wanting to dress up and behave submissively to her was why I was feeling that way; having her 'force' me to be submissive and punish me for wanting to be that way by making me endure the discomfort that a girl would if sex were forced on her. I haven't had those fantasies anymore. But I still feel like I want to behave stereotypically female, re-active rather than active when having sex.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Posting Permissions
