Brandi
If everyone knows your secret then you may as well take the opportunity of setting the record straight. Send them all an email/letter explaining yourself and the events that took place. Even if your friends and relatives are avoiding you, for sure they will read your comments and hopefully the more reasonable ones will realize that they did not know the whole story and begin talking to you again. Gossip is a destructive force and the longer your side of the story is not heard the more the gossip will build you up as a monster.
And send a second private letter to your wife telling her what she means to you, asking for her forgiveness and understanding then give her space to think things over.
