What's your biggest fear about going out en femme?

[Simply_Vanessa]

lets see....
so far, if I dont open my mouth, I pass. I got the look and the movement/gestures down.

but since I already know that my voice is not to be used...thats not really a fear. I am working on my voice but I know I cannot use it for a while...

so I would have to say being read would be horrible. I know it will happen to me someday, but its still an experience I am not looking forward to...but as long as nothing nasty or demoralizing is said, I will carry on

[Vickie_CDTV]

I can't pass in general, and specifically my voice is terrible and my beard shadow always shows (but this is better than it used to be since I have started electrolysis.) The thing I fear most of all is being read and causing an embarrasing scene.

I used to worry most about getting into trouble with the law for using the womens' room, but nowadays I only go where I know there is a safe restroom available.

Fear aside, the sheer amount of time it takes me do my makeup, dress and everything else is the main reason I don't dress more. It just takes too long to be practical most of the time.

[Deborah Jane]

The initial stage of leaving the house and being recognised by neighbours.
After that my voice, my voice is waay to deep to be taken as female. Even as a guy there have been comments that my voice is so deep, that it sounds like when my b*lls dropped, they went through the floorboards!! [Mind you...I can do a pretty neat Barry White impression when I sing :D]

[Jonianne]

I used to have the fear of being "read" and there were two ways of dealing with it. One is, if you have a femme enough face, work on becoming passable to the point that you are so confident you will never be read or;

Two, be OK with people knowing you are a crossdresser, whether you get read or not, ie TxKimberly and most of the out and about CD'ers.

I opted for number Two. When I started going out, to overcome that fear, I just went out with the assumption that everybody could tell I was male. I found out that most people don't pay attention or if they do, they don't say anything. The few times I have gone out, I have only had one person openly disrespect me by loudly laughing and pointing. That just showed the fear he was living within his own self.

I think my biggest fear now, is being attacked by some wacko, but going to safer places and at safer times, helps ease that fear.

[karen68]

My fear is not passing and being read. I pass perfectly from behind but not facially, tried all types of makeup ways but still look like a bloke in a dress. I also have a deep voice I have tried and tried to fem it but can't seem to soften it enough

[Angiemead12]

I fear I will see someone who knows me or knows of me. I live in a small country!

and to loose respect from my co workers! coz I like getting the job done!

[DAVIDA]

Since I couldn't pass even with a note from my mother, I really am afraid of the violence.
I am afraid that I would smack some fool around when they laughed at me!

[sherri52]

I fear breaking a heel when I don't have a second pair with me