Week 4 Inquiring Minds Want To Know

[eluuzion]

[QUOTE=Di;2143585]

I do not have a SO, but I am answering anyway.


10) Since I live on Earth, no. I think the issue revolves around the time taken away from relationship time.

11) Personally, I'm too logical to go there in my mind. But ...It is easier to pretend solutions that work in cyberspace (which have no consequences), would actually be possible to pull off in the real world.(which of course rarely if ever true).

12)People are rarely deceptive in only one area of their lives. You either choose to make lies and deception part of your life, or you do not. Once you elect to engage in it, it becomes addicting, because it is "easier" than dealing with the "truth"....until later of course.

One of the reasons I continue to live alone is to avoid dealing with these issues.

[Petra Bellejambes]

Dear Di.

I realize you are merely channeling the GG questions, so I am not shooting the messenger here.

I must say though that the questions have taken a rather belligerent and prejudicial turn this week. This comes as rather a surprise.

I am sure you will get great findings without my continued input, but I simply had to register my disappointment at the direction this survey has taken.

Thank you for making the effort.

Respectfully, Petra

[linnea]

Sorry I missed the previous questions, but here are my responses to 10, 11, and 12:

10--I don't think that GGs are jealous of my looks, nor do they feel threatened by me, and I don't (and never have) post these thoughts. I'm barely passable (if that) and even if I were passable and knock-down gorgeous, I doubt that many GGs would care. I would rather post questions to GGs asking for their advice or even better have a chance to talk to more of them. The ones I have talked to have been very helpful and supportive.
11--I look for good advice wherever I can find it, but I weigh the strength of the advice on its content rather than its source. If good (useful) advice comes from one of my CD sisters, then I take it and use it if I can. If it comes from a GG, then I take it and use it if I can. Some advice from sister CDs has strength because it relates to specific CD problems--tucking, for example--that GGs don't have or have experience with. In cases like that, I would probably consider the CD's advice more likely to be useful.
12--First, although my SO knows about my crossdressing, she is just beginning to acknowledge and possibly accept it. So I'm going slowly. As she becomes more comfortable with her knowledge, I will tell her more and more . . . and more. Right now, I'm willing to tell her everything, but she has declined to ask or hear more, so I'm honoring that. I have offered to tell her everything or some things or whatever she wants. I've told her this lovingly and in a way that acknowledges and is sensitive to her feelings. I'll continue to offer and explain as she indicates she wants to know about it.

[docrobbysherry]

An old girlfriend I used to hook up with. Now, she wants to "just be friends", because:

10. "She's jealous of the way I look, and feels threatened by my dressing!":brolleyes:

11 and 12. Not applicable

[Veronica Nowakowski]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

Very few would be jealous of my looks, and they'd be butt ugly. I'm passable, but not grade A at this point. I also don't post those thoughts though.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

Not applicable.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I have an SO? Why didn't anyone tell me? I'm only hiding it from her because I don't know who she is to tell her!

[Rianna Humble]

I have an SO? Why didn't anyone tell me? I'm only hiding it from her because I don't know who she is to tell her!

[Kaitlyn Michele]

We have Week 4 :D of our GG's questions! Thanks in advance for your help all.

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

10...i've always thought it was pretty obnoxious to make any comparisons to "gg's"....if a gg says she is jealous, its likely to be a way of saying "see ya" or just a way to compliment your appearance

11.. our boards are a fantasy land of acceptance...it was a huge benefit to my mental health to find this forum...i never had a group of folks that i could share things with and actually get a compliment!!!! but i feel its a big mistake to put to much credence into the "you go girl" and "you totally pass" comments... the same holds true in the real world..when you ask for nontg folks opinions there should be a tag that says "could be very bad for your confidence"

12.. too late for me

[pj]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

Oh, hell no! Ha. I would think it's almost always the other way around, as far as jealousy is concerned.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I would never rate the opinion of someone I don't really know over that of my girlfriend.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Hmm, I don't. I haven't so far anyway. I can't imagine anything I wouldn't want her to know, since she has been so supportive.

[AmandaM]

Week 4
10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I don't think they're jealous, but I think it can be threatening. Some CDers are better looking than their GG partners.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

My wife's opinion matters more than anyone. We're in this together.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Some things about CDing I'm not even sure about myself. For example, if I was single, I might seriously consider a sex change. Since it's unlikely I will pursue that while married, and the drive isn't strong enough to force me, then why bring it up? It wouldn't be worth the stress it would give her, for something that may never happen.

[flatlander_48]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

No, I have no illusions about that.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

N/A

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

Perhaps sometimes too much truth is not necessarily a good thing.

[corrinediane]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?
No I don't believe they are jealous or threatened. Never post those kind of things. That would be presumptuous on my part.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern
Everyone has opinions. Choices are for the one that needs to choose. You can always opt out.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?
Probably because some of it is sexual and if she doesn't take part or give me the feeling that she understands it is awkward.

[RozalynLove]

10) Do you really believe that GGs are jealous of your looks and feel threatened by you, or do you post these thoughts just because it is a fun thing to do?

I do not post these thoughts, but I have been told by many GG that they are jealous of various aspects of my looks, such as my hair, and due to me trusting what these people say; I do believe at least some are jealous of how I look. That's when I've been dressed as a male, it's not like they were jealous of what a beautiful girl I looked! I have never felt like a GG was threatened by me, but believe it would be entirely possible for them to be depending on the circumstances. An example of such a circumstance would be being in the company of me while dressed and her boyfriend, when she knew her boyfriend was attracted to cross dressers.

11) Why is your "SISTERS" voice and opinions more valid than that of your partner, after all it is in our interest that when you go out you look as good as possible, that you are comfortable in what you are wearing for that situation that you do not draw attention to "US", "OUR" safety should be "OUR" concern

I currently have no partner, but if I did no one's differing opinion would mean more to me that theirs, however I assume that the feelings of the 'sisters' opinions being more important come from their opinions often being the exact same as each others, and of course it is only logical that someone's own opinion on how they should live their life will be more important to them than another person's.

12) Even though your SO knows and is accepting of your CDing why do you still hide aspects of your CDing from her?

I do not have a SO, and would not hide aspects of my cross dressing from her if I did, but I think the reason for many people doing it is that they still feel a tremendous amount of shame and fear of rejection because of their enjoyment of cross dressing due to how deeply the negative emotions relating to the cross dressing are ingrained in them.