When I go out in public
en femme, I usually dress for the occasion.
I'll sex it up for a nightclub, but if I go to the grocery store for the usual weekly items, I'll wear ballet flats, womens jeans, and a frilly top, and some neat looking earrings. I don't do this every day, but I have done it on my own ( unaccompanied) more than a dozen times since I became honest with myself a year & a half ago.
Even though I'm just a crossdresser, I aim to blend in, and not make a scene.
As far as being accepted, I have not had a single negative indecent yet. Sometimes people are too polite to stare and don' t want to be rude. Others are curious. I just get the feeling that when you dress the way women typically do everyday, people will take you seriously as a trans person and not mess with you. I'm at the median heigh of a lot of women, which is 5'6", and I hardly get eyes on me until someone attempts to study me. As much as I want to put on a big frilly prom dress or those 5 inch heels and a pencil skirt & sheer hose & garters (which is gonna get noticed), I found that being stealth is better than not going out
en femme at all.