1. Every time I go en femme I do a nice conservative makup of my face. I even have beard cover from Suddenly femme, however I ALWAYS have some kind of beard shadow not matter how hard I try. I shave up, down sideways etc... and put on my concealer and it always shows through. also if I put on to much I look very fake and wierd like the crossdressing guy from boondock saints. lol. I see so many pretty girls on here, please Whats you secret!?

Hi Dahlia: Ther best that you can do is to use the best quality razor and shave cream. You will get better results with a brand new razor and by shaving after showering when the heat from the shower has opened your pores. As for the makeup, you might want to look into MAC and Sephora for some alternatives that have worked well for others.


2. I have only bee out once so far an have not had to deceide yet, but can I please get a difinitive answer on what bathroom I should go in? I am not passable see my photo, but would feel wierd going in the mens restroom.

If you are en femme, you are ok using the ladies room in most places. Just do your business and leave; don't "hang out" in the ladies' room. Avoid places that have lots of families and children if possible.


3.I really admire women and look very closely at what the are wearing and try to mimic that. I don't want to appear to be a "hooker" or "****", what the question is really.... Am I doing ok in the photo I posted?

I think that you look very nice in your photo but you should wear long sleeves or a sweater to cover up your tattoos. Very young women in their 20s may be tattooed but you appear to be older than that so it does stand out.


3. I am really interested in taking hormones, I know what the results can be and I also know what the side effects are. my question is, would my wife be able to tell I was taking them if I didn't tell her (which I probably would) and has anyone taken them and really regretted it? I am mainly looking for the effects of thinner body hair and maybe a little breast tissue, but I really dont want to loose my sex drive, and finally do the once you can get online without a prescription really work?

I can't add anything more to what others have said

4. last question for now and this is my biggest concern! How do you girls change you voice? I have looked at a number of threads and watched a number of videos, I have practiced over and over but cannnot seem to ever make a convincing female sound. Am I DOOMED to a deep male voice or am I just not getting it. I really want to continue dressing en femme and going out but my biggest concern is having to say something to someone? please help.

Do your best to soften your voice and raise your pitch and pay attention to the words that you use, your tone and the way that you speak. Women use different words and speak in a different manner.


5. oh, and also (this is the real last question) what about when you have to show you id (drivers license) am I able to get one as a girl,? is that even legal, I am in california BTW.

I don't know the legalities here in CA but I can tell you that SAs are just checking to make sure that the signatures on cards and IDs match. Most are not phased if you are en femme and have a male ID.