Hi Vivian
Someone said the truth will set you free but sometimes that is not always evident. Everyone that has gone through this, has their own story. One thing that helped me is my wife recognized the fem side of me before I told her. She is not into macho stuff although appreciates certain manly character that I posess. She see's my masculine side as much as my fem side so it is a good mix. Perhaps your girlfriend can ponder the advantage of that. I can tell you that although I hang around the house with painted nails and in somewhat feminine attire, my wife will not have a girl to girl talk with me so she has set her limits. I also promised her I would not embarass her by being too feminine among neighbors and friends. I am lucky that I live somewhat remote so I can get away with a lot. you need to help her see the positives.
Good luck girl and I wish you the best.
