I have always been extroverted and unafraid to converse with new people. However, on the romantic front I was always somewhat shy, probably from the age old fear of rejection. Now after all those years with good and bad experience in all aspects of life I am even more extroverted caused in large part by my starting dressing over 3 years ago. I love to engage in fun and interesting conversations with total strangers while dressed. On the romantic side, even that shyness has "almost" disappeared!
I can attest to Allie's statement, she is really an outgoing individual, I just wish we could get together and talk more. (Allie I live alone and you can change here)
Susan
Originally Posted by Angiemead12
... ditto for me too. My confidence when talking to women in particular, has certainly increased (both when en femme and in boy mode)
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CDing itself didn't give me confidence.
CDing AND going out en femme gave me confidence.
To me, the latter statement makes a lot more sense because you can potentially CD in the comfort of your own home, with no one judging you for your actions or the way you look, and the most you get out of it is the satisfaction you have with dressing up en femme.
Speaking from personal experience, I CD in order to unlock a lot of aspects of myself that I've denied myself access to over the course of the past few years, having a lot of confidence being one of them. I knew that by putting myself in a very unfamiliar situation that I will somehow gain the confidence to do anything that I wanted. I'm so proud of this that it's become a normal part of my life now.
You want to know how confident I got? Just a few minutes ago I was at a CVS shopping for makeup and I walked to the counter to pay for my things and, while the old lady who was helping me had this curious expression on her face because of my basket full of makeup, I just calmly looked at her direction as if I was buying a toothbrush or something else, paid for it, thanked her, then walked away. All this while I was en drab.
As a guy I'm very shy but in order to go out as Stacey I had to find a lot of self confidence just to walk out the door.
thanks for all the reply
I was thinking about how it will affect my live as male
& how will affect me in all the aspects of my live
Sophia
In my younger teen years and for most of my 20’s I was very macho acting when around both sexes. It was almost to the point of being somewhat cocky even. I had not come to terms with my dressing and felt as though I was freakish and weird. I was actually ashamed of myself for dressing and was scared to death of showing any feminine qualities around others. For this reason I overcompensated at being macho. I had confidence in myself because of my other accomplishments but often had bouts of insecurity because of my dressing. As I’ve aged and matured I’ve come to terms with my dressing and accepted it 100%. I’ve been educated on transgender immensely through books and great websites like this one. I now know that we are many and we are normal good people. When I was younger I felt alone but now I feel supported and understood. This has helped me to be myself without having to put on a macho act. I’m humbled, proud, and unashamed. I feel complete. So for me it seems as though my confidence has increased more over time and with the acceptance of my crossdressing.
Dressing at home has made me perhaps a little introverted, if there is a social occasion with friends, sometimes I just stay home and dress. But then if it weren't for you all, nobody would know my desire to dress. Hope that someday, I can hook up with others that dress, but my attempts have been futile. It is just that it would be a drag, (pardon the pun), to have to drive two or three hours to socialize with others like me.
From Madrid to Montreal that underneath it all that Tina prefers pantyhose
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