I have never been in a chat room. I always wanted to try but after reading about that im not sure if I want to. I can let most things go but I just dont know.....
I am sorry that happened to you
I have never been in a chat room. I always wanted to try but after reading about that im not sure if I want to. I can let most things go but I just dont know.....
I am sorry that happened to you
Don't forget that there are a lot of people who are e-hard. That means more often than not, the person acting stupid is some pimple-faced teenager who is acting all tough on a chat room.Originally Posted by jaswinter
Yea I guess so, that does make me feel a little braver on getting onto a chat room. I just dont know where to go.
This sadly made me lol.....
And this tinyeye stuff and other things are making me REALLY paranoid. -_-...but I guess I have to keep my composure, and take the more risque pictures off. I suggest doing that Haley, and don't be discouraged! Though they may be sex hungry, those are not the guys you seek (pardon my Star Wars reference).
Just be careful next time, and chats are for fun if you make them fun. Try not to be offended by the shallowmindedness and with people who think with their genitals.
-Tina
Your friendly neighborhood crossdresser.
Hiya Haley,
Hey, keep things in perspective here… It is not “the End of the World”,
It is just “the End of YOUR World”. hehehehhee
Talking about taking a knife to a gunfight, wow!
1) “I made a profile at a chat site as a girl”.
So, obviously you intended to deceive everyone.
2) “because I didn't mention I was a CD lol..” Again, “lying by omission”…
3) “a few guys hit on me and I got some private messages (I was rather flattered).”
Setting them up for embarrassment in front of their forum peer group…
4) “blurted out that I was a CD”.
Analogous to announcing in a men’s locker room…
5) “I just maintained that I wasn’t a homosexual and that I was happy with how I was”.
This is the point where you pull your knife and they draw their guns.
6) “surprisingly someone posted links to my flikr and photobucket albums O.O”.
This is just a beginning of the retaliation from the “victims” of your deception
7) “I had no I idea how they managed to find me!”
The Internet is a powerful tool when it comes to data mining/location/tracking/profiling. If you are good at it, it is almost like clipping a GPS tracker to your target. Thinking otherwise is being naïve.
8) “It really made me feel bad”
I would not expect any apologies from the group anytime soon.
9) “and the fact that they could find my photo albums made me feel scared”
Some people can find your ISP, your IP, your email, your online activities, all the way to finding your home address. (if they are skilled). But don’t worry, there are tons of folks that will try and convince you that those things are “impossible”…lol
10) “Some people can be so ignorant.”
No comment,
There are a few actions that are almost guaranteed to attract road rage when driving. The same applies to chat rooms/forums that include “romantic/flirting” components. One of these actions is to pretend to be the opposite sex. The only thing worse is to try and bait unsuspecting admirers into expressing a sexual interest. A sure way to start a hanging posse...
I think it is safe to assume that your integrity and character are pretty much shot on that site.
It is just one of those things like “egging” the house of “the grumpy old man of the neighborhood” when we were kids. Seems like a harmless, humorous prank, until you see the rifle barrel poking out a window and a laser dot glowing on your chest… Sometimes the best strategy is to run away, chalk it up to “experience”, regroup and move on…life is short.
HaveFun/BeHappy…
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Speaking of safety and being afraid, I recently learned that some digital cameras, cell phone cameras (iphone I know for sure) will put GPS data in the photo description. If you pull up the photos it will map the location taken to a street map. Anyone else know more about this?? This is spooky!! So, be careful .......
Hugs, Andi
The iPhones do that, and I think that all the new blackberrys will as well. I have a HTC EVO4 from Sprint, it uses the android software and with any phone that has the android OS you have the option to turn the GPS data for pictures on and off.
If Sorry you had to go through that but think about it you lied and got bussed.I may have acted the same if I was one of them.Keep things forthright and you not got in dutch hun. And stay out of chat rooms girl.
Angie
I avoid chat rooms like the plague, regardless of what mode I'm in. They are generally full of trolls.
Just go into the chat rooms and say things like ZOMG lollerco4st3rzzz pwn3d!" and you will fit right in.
Every, and I mean every chat room, I am open and honest.
I say I am a straight guy, that prefers an androgynous appearance, with a gothic edge. I also do full on crossdressing. I do not deceive. The moment I get from men or women flirtatious messages, I point out "I'm a trap" or something like that. (to quote Admiral Ackbar from Return of the Jedi).
I will not lead anyone on.
Deception helps no one, especially in such ignorance laden places as chat rooms.
What the O.P. did was wrong, but I am sure everyone has done it. It is interesting to see the lines some guys think are flattering like "I wanna run my tongue from your thigh to your clitty", real classy there bo bo. LOL.
If there is a profile, I will put that I am male.
Everyone of the chat rooms I participate in I am respected, and well liked. There is no animosity. The one pic I have shown draws compliments from all. One guy said an ignorant statement, and was dog piled by the others.
So there ya go, if you are honest and open, you will usually fair well. If you deceive then you run a risk of pissing some people off.
Hi all,
My advice is you have to be careful who you come out to online. I had an experience worse then Haley's. I had people calling me a names, I had a few even saying I needed to be checked into a mental hospital, and a few other things I don't want to talk about.
Now a days I watch who I come out to, online. You never know what kind of thing might happen.
[SIZE="2"]Dear Haley,
If you’re bored, send me a PM and we’ll have a decent chat. Not as…immediate…as a chat room, I suppose, but infinitely friendlier, more open-minded, and completely non-threatening. I would suggest revealing a desire to crossdress only among other crossdressers, since this particular declaration seems to open a veritable Pandora’s Box of bigotry at the time and place we find ourselves in. I expect to be called all sorts of names by mentally-challenged yahoos, so I keep my secrets close to my bosom (literally). Here, on this site, it feels like one is blossoming among other beautiful flowers in a highly secretive garden – oh, there’s a dark cloud floating by now and then, but by and large the atmosphere is supportive, loving, and sympathetic. The circumstances of the chat room are something I avoid like the plague, since infection is a definite possibility, and I’m a tender petal that needs careful nurturing. Ultimately, it’s up to each individual to be happy, but there are others (like me) who can nourish your delicate CD nature without censure…[/SIZE]
You go to a chatroom thinking that you can portray a different personality. It feels anonymous. But, nothing is ever anon.
Trolls can find anything. Even on anon boards, they have traced other posts people have made on the net, found their address on google maps, and where they work.
You see that type of stuff unfold all of the time on other boards. You have to be careful.
"Today a young man [...] realized that all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration...that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively...there is no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we are the imagination of ourselves. Here's Tom with the Weather.”-Bill Hicks
“What freedom men and women could have, were they not constantly tricked and trapped and enslaved and tortured by their sexuality! The only drawback in that freedom is that without it one would not be a human. One would be a monster.” East of Eden by Steinbeck
I dont mind so much guys cyber hitting on---it's a bit flattering in truth--what I mind are guys who become abuse, either because they find out I"m CD or if I don't respond to their advances---
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I like it when GGs hit on me. LOL.
Of course it is difficult to tell who is GG an who is male.
I used to use CuSeeMe back in the day for multiway video chats and generally everyone there was cool. I was always upfront about exactly what people were getting and often, it was other women who were most interested! I've never tried normal text only chat rooms though.
I was in a chat room a few nights ago and a MTF came in. It was quite upsetting to watch her get verbally abused like that, so I sent her a private message and told her to join this forum so she could discuss anything without being attacked.
I wonder if she ended up checking out the forum.
People can be so ignorant and mean.
I've been in chat rooms and acknowledges being a CDer...the reactions are common. In my case, I'd been part of a chat for several weeks before I let that information out. Some of the people I'd grown closer to were pretty cool with it, but there were the usual jerks too. Such is the world we live in.
Who says they are really single?
DonnaT
