Barbara:
It is such a difficult decision to make at the spur of the moment. None of us deserves to be put on the spot like that and then forced to do something we might not be ready to do.
I think you did the right thing. I have been called effeminate, in touch with my feminine side etc.
I always admit it and really simply tell the guys that I believe they are missing out on a whole part of themselves, which (and here is the is the stab) would allow them to be more cultured and educated, enjoy more about life instead of running around like grunting beef cakes.
Because I am a living example of what I mean they usually shut up.
Without giving up your protective cloak of leaving Barbara anonymous embrace your feminine side.
You did good today to protect yourself and make the coming out something that is at a time and place of your choosing not theirs or the situations.
In the world that we live in you did not betray yourself or what you stand for, you ensured that you didn't get railroaded.
Kathryn
P.S. I have never given a flying hoot about what people think of me - and if they can't find a valid line of attack or criticism they usually beat on the most vulnerable spot which in my book makes them weak and me right:D
