Quote Originally Posted by maya1love View Post

So, as someone who still envisions being with a man even when I'm not dressed as a girl (although I would like to be seen as the fem in the relationship), I've come to the conclusion that I really should stick to the gay male community in terms of looking for an ideal mate. The reason that I feel this way is because most trans-admirers that I have met seem to have a great deal of difficulty being with me when I am not in girl mode. Being in a relationship with me involves being with my male self 90% of the time, and my female self 10% of the time. And, luckily there are some gay men out there who have been fine with my dressing and treating me like the girl in the relationship, so I feel like that has to be the closest fit at this point...
Well that's the problem: how do you find gay guys who are ok with you as a woman?
I mean, i'm normally a masculine gay dude who loves to dress and be the woman in the relationship and ESPECIALLY in the bedroom. I've tried finding total tops to date but even they are turned off when they hear I dress. When do you usually tell them that you dress?
I feel like it's kinda false-advertising: they think they're going to get this masculine guy when, in reality, i'm a total fem bottom in the relationship. I feel like maybe I should try and fem myself up in everyday life so that guys know?
I also feel like it'd be a helluva lot easier to get what I want if I just transitioned. So frustrating.