If you can dress as you like in public without serious repercussions, that's great, but some simply can't do that.

Everyone has their own unique situation and comfort level to take into consideration when it comes to going out in public or not, so just because it works for one person or for a group of persons doesn't mean it works for everyone. Reducing us to two camps is over-simplifying things, IMO.

There is a continuum of "camps" ranging from being able to come and go while dressed without any problem at one extreme to putting one's life, employment, housing, relationships and/or liberty at risk if we go out dressed. Keep in mind that there are all kinds of people from all over the world in these forums. Some here would literally be at risk of being imprisoned or killed if they openly dress.

Quote Originally Posted by nikkijo View Post
and you would be a wuss.... and lack trust in your friends trust me, i they are your friends they will accept you... regardless... i told all my friends at a rally i put on and just toned down nikki slightly... basically kept makeup and dress situationally apropriate and minimal, it was their first time seeing nikki after all, and all are very suportive even if they need a few answers every once in a while.. but i will say i go beyond the realm of just CD....
Due to the somewhat condescending nature of your response, I took a look at some of your older postings to see if this is a regular thing for you, and I see that this isn't the first time that you've managed to insult a broad swath of people here. Hon, you need to stop and think before saying stuff like that, it really is insulting to many people here. You're welcome to your opinion, but that doesn't mean that it's OK to slap people in the face with it.

Keep in mind that you are young, which can make a big difference, young and pretty will often be tolerated more than older and not pretty. Because gender issues have received lots of coverage in the media in your lifetime, your friends of the same age are a lot more likely to be tolerant of someone who is a bit different, older member's friends and family are less likely to tolerate gender differences, in my experience, as we grew up in times when people were much less educated about or tolerant of people whose gender presentation is different, and old habits die hard, each generation tends to abide by what they learned when growing up.

Also, while you are a bit tall at 5'10", you're not tall enough to really attract attention in public, as there are plenty of females around that height. Try being in your late 50's and 6'5" tall in your stocking feet and then see how comfortable you'd be in public. Believe me, it makes a very significant difference.

Carol