Well why don't you just tell her exactly what you told us here? It sounds to me like open communication is totally missing in your relationship.

What you're doing here is what I've seen time and time again. You're setting yourself up for being dumped in the most cold hearted way even though that is exactly what you're trying to avoid. She is setting up boundaries for you (who even gave her that much authority over your life???) and making you feel appreciative for her being so 'generous' since she'd rather you didn't do any crossdressing at all. I wonder how you felt if you'd forbid her to wear skirts and then 'agreed on some boundaries'?

And from what it sounds like to me, you might not even be a hardcore crossdresser. You're just longing for a forbidden fruit right now. So if she had the kindness to care about you and your relationship, she'd at least give you the opportunity to find out for both of you. For all you know, it's not that great to go out en femme and your problems are solved.

Doesn't anyone see how one-sided these things always are? If you go to so much trouble to accommodate her small-minded needs as far as your dress-style is concerned, it should be HER who is grateful that she has such a great partner who would do that for her.

I've said this before and I'll say it again: If we come crawling to our partners, begging for a few crumbs of acceptance (for something that is totally harmless), then we have no right to complain that so few women are accepting. We've made our own bed so to speak. As long as most men refuse to stand up for themselves and their basic human rights in their own home, that's how long this gynocentric dating world will continue to suppress men's needs and desires and treat them from an angle of pathology. Even in vanilla relationships I see the same tendency.

Oh, and btw, giving in all the time does NOT secure a relationship. That's another big myth that most guys buy into. Just because you're doing everything to accommodate her, does not mean she'll repay you with loyalty or respect.

I know this is harsh but I feel us CD's need a little more of a talking to. We've become so used to meeting on anonymous forums feeling sorry for each other or ourselves and giving each other sympathy-pats. It feels nice but doesn't help make things better.