Why are we so afraid of being thought of as Gay?

[DaphneGrey]

I have been reading a few threads over the past couple of days. I cant help but notice the prevailing homophobic attitudes. Not bigotry mind you please do not take this the wrong way. It seems that many in our community cant make any type of comment on any thing without working into the post "I am not gay".

Now I understand that most who crossdress are not. I understand when coming out to someone, anyone the question comes up and needs an answer. I get that and have been there.

If you are out and living your life even part time. Interacting with friends, salespeople, waiters, and such or anybody else for that matter. You must have gotten over the o my God what are people going to think attitude, Yes? Or even here on the form. Is it really important to spout of " I am not Gay" every other sentence?

I was recently hanging out with some friends of mine who happen to be Gay and the conversation came up about why Gay folk don't really care for Heterosexual Male to Female crossdressers. The answer " They are always going on about not being Gay. I understand that they are not but it gets kind of tiring hearing it, and sometimes it is offensive! If they were really comfortable with themselves they wouldn't need to broadcast it all over the place" When I asked if that was his only reason said "for me that is real pet peeve"

I should tell you a little about myself for those who don't know me. I am one hundred percent out. I identify as Queer\Gender queer \ and Trans gender. i am happily married and not unfaithful. But find men attractive and swoon over the respectful attention of gentlemen. Just a little back round about me.

I don't want to come off as attacking anybody or any thing like that. If you can walk into a room full of people in a dress does it really matter what they think?

Any and all thoughts would be appreciated.