Okay. YOur wife is being a manipulative B**ch. The whole saying "I don't care..." and using that as a "trap" is absolute BS, and you should call her on that. YOu can now tell her because of that you will never trust her again. You can also (why do I find myself harping on this) tell her that her reaction is EXACTLY the reason you hid this aspect of yourself. Irrational behavior on HER part.
I wish you luck and hope you can work things out, though I have a feeling that will not be the case. When you use terms like "she holds all the cards" you are admitting defeat in an unfair "fight"
