Living in both genders is a constant challenge, especially when balancing a family that started off unaware of the issue of transgenderism. One of the biggest challenges is maintaining perspective. It's so easy to find ourselves wrapped up in our feminine selves that a sense of disengaged perspective is almost impossible to maintain. Yet, it is most essential that we stand back every now and again to make sure that the rudder is amidships. Sometimes this can be done with a friend, or maybe professional assistance, or just talking it out here might be enough.
My wife is incredibly supportive, and yet there are areas of action that would stun her into a less supportive postion. So far we have been able to talk all these things out satisfactorily. Like you, I plan to live in both genders. I committed to my wife and that's where I've decided to stay.
If I might comment on your hair, I don't know how long it is, but maybe you can tap your wife's expertise and compromise on a cut that could go either way? Getting her involved may be the best way
It's not easy, but then again life was never billed as an easy deal
my best,
tina
