Will my grandson grow out of it?

[Cynthia Anne]

My grandson started playing with dolls at the age of two! At three he had to have a toy house for his dolls, then came more dolls, a toy kitchen set, his own purse with make up ect. Now at the age of seven all he wanted for his birthday was a dress! (He sure looks cute in it!) The family Doctor keeps saying, don,t worry, he will grow out of it! I love him very much and try not to encourage him nor discourage him!His mother, my daughter tries to do the same although she buys him everything he wants! I say all he's going to grow out of is his dress! I would love to here your thoughts on this! Please!!

[kimdl93]

Your grandson sounds rather familiar. I kinda think that he has gravitated towards that things that work for him. And maybe he won't grow out of it. Most of us haven't.

[Misty G]

Just Love your grandson the way he is and let him grow up to make up his own mind.

[nylon boy]

I was five when i started feeling the way i do now but it was something taboo and a subject i visited and forgot about for years at a time until my late teens my guess is that if he gets what he wants then this faze might pass eventually as he may get bored with it,however he seems open to his own exact needs early in his life,maybe times and views are a changing more drasticaly than we think and kids are noticing this earlier in their growing up stages and acting on them more openly??

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Cynthia,

I think it's kinda hard to say if your grandson will grow out of it or not. He might do. When I was little, I liked to play "with the girls" - jump rope, hopscotch, that sort of thing but was never particularly interested in dolls or makeup. My bother on the other hand, loved girl dolls. He had lots of them and a dolls house too. He also liked to wear my Moms and Grandmother's old jewelry ... YET ... I went on the become the "crossdresser of the family" and he "grew out of it". He's not the least bit girly in any way whatsoever and hasn't been since he was about 12.

[Gina X]

You have to face the fact that your grandson is descended from you and as such will have inherited some or all of your genes. It is very unlikely he will grow out of it and I think all you can do is to guide and protect him and try to prepare him for the challenges he is certainly going to meet. Does your daughter know about you I guess if she does it will be easier to talk to her about your grandson......................

[Angiemead12]

It may be a start, at least thats how it starts?

[Charleen]

and the problem is...........?

[LeannL]

Your grandson may or may not "grow out of it". He will be whatever he will be. There is nothing you can do to change who he is. The best thing you can do is to help him learn about and be comfortable with himself.

Leann

[BRANDYJ]

Like the song says....What ever will be, will be, the future is not mine to see. I was nothing like your grandson and I became a crossdresser at age 11. Yet I still liked all the boy things. But even at age 8, I liked girls and would even play house with them. Your grandson is to young for anyone to guess if he will continue to enjoy his fem side. Perhaps once in school and being around other boys, he will gravitate to doing guy things and grow out of his seemingly girlish interests. Once puberty starts to set in, things can change fast. However, he may still end up being a boy that likes all the boy things, including girls, but still become a crossdresser.

[nylon boy]

and the problem is...........?

Ive tried my best not to rise to this comment...if there wasnt a slight problem i dont think this thread would exist,we dont all think the same charleen and some people just need a little clarity or light shining on their situations otherwise there wouldnt be no need for a forum???To some people believe it or not this is a problem

[TxKimberly]

I'm afraid that I doubt very much he will grow out of it. Like someone else posted above, my first clear memories of wanting to be or dress like a girl were also at the age of five and I was sneaking every chance I could find to wear a dress by the time I was 7. It sounds to me as if your grandson has been fairly consistent in his interests since day one - why would he suddenly pop up and say "OK, I'm done!"
Sorry Grandma, i know that's probably not what you wanted to hear, but I doubt that you came here wanting us to fib to you.

Now here's some small bit of good news for you. A LOT of us go through long periods of serious depression, and while I don't know the statistics, I also recall reading that the suicide rate of TG children is quite high. Most of this depression stems from having no support, no one to talk to, no one to confide in - in other words, being entirely alone to wrestle with your difference. It sounds like your Grandchild is probably going to be able to avoid all of that. Not only will he NOT be alone to wrestle with these demons, but your daughters support and understanding will help make sure that they don't become demons to be wrestled with in the first place. He is not being taught that this is something horrible and bad and this may well save him a great deal of pain later on.

[Karren H]

Nope... I doubt he will grow ouit of it...

[Maria in heels]

Simply put, he is your grandson, and nothing more or less. Love him and support him, pease don't make him feel out of place, and he will be who he is, not what someone else wants him to be...

[Stephanie Miller]

May I suggest you save your clothes for him. He'll thank you for it when he's grown up and they come back in style

[Charleen]

I said what I said because even though you have a concern, it shouldn't be a problem. There has been quite alot of publicity about kids like your Grandson lately on the news including a woman who wrote a book about her son. I believe it's called "My son wears a dress".
Most of us here started the same way at the same age. It took me ages to come to terms with who I am because when I was younger we didn't have the resources that we have today.

[ChanDelle]

I doubt the "grow out of it" part. I thought I had "grown out of it" for a few years in high school, but back it came after I got married. Then I knew it was probably here to stay. I was going to ask what are you going to say if he wants his ears pierced, but I was in Walmart the other day and a family of 3 boys from about 6 to 9 all had both ears pierced. I doubt they're all CDs in training, so it's going to be pretty mainstream in a few years if not already. Just support him when he needs it and perhaps when the time is right, let him know he's not alone, if you can. I wonder what it would have been like for me if I had found out much earlier in life that there was more than one of me in this world.

ChanDelle

[MsJanessa]

All I can say is that I didn't grow out of it

[seanmuscle]

He is probably a CD. Got the genes from you. At least he can have a friend in you to confide in if he feels guilty or alone.

[sissystephanie]

I started wearing panties somewhere between the age of 6 or 7. Now I am in my late 70's and still dress enfemme almost every day. I didn't grow out of it and I doubt that he will. Accept him the way he is!!

[Cynthia Anne]

I say thank you all of your comments thus far! My only concern is the doctor has my daughter convince that he will grow out of it and I fill this may not happen!

[kimdl93]

None of us know for certain. Our experiences would suggest that by seven each of us was already firmly established on a path. And more likely, the deciding factor was genetic or intra-utero hormonal environment.

The bigger issue, one I think you're alluding to, it that perhaps your daughter is hoping its a phase and may have trouble accepting if he doesn't "grow out of it". As someone wrote early on, all he really needs is unconditional love, regardless of how he develops. Give him that and his life will be fine.

[Kate Lynn]

I'm 61 years old,and I never grew out of it.

[Ahnya]

Once puberty hits, everything might change - or it might not. It's best to be loving and supporting, because it is so very easy to scar children with intolerance. If she is worried how other people will think of him, then just advise the child that it should only be done at home.

[suit]

better start loading that child with tools needed to deal with the world and expectation the world has for what ever gender chosen. and the consequences of lost time,the huge expenses and disappointments with straddling a fence too long.
the limitation of ones brain , it really can really one deal for one point/front well . wearing too many hats leads to mediocrity and with the competition of life, probable failure.
a day at a nude beach might sound like a bad idea ..but it might just clarify stuff !
one form of a boot to the head may be better than another. sooner than later ?
sorry to be so crude and blunt