You are so lucky . Both of you . There is real communication , consideration and hope between you .
I think it's only natural your'e partner feels a little uncertain of her appearance , perhaps may i dare say it - envious even ? After years of crossdressing there is one thing I've learnt and that it's a very natural trait to constantly be on the search to look more presentable . I mean honestly , just pick up any newspaper , magazine , pop the television on - we're drenched with it in adverts - the ideal to look better . It's embedded into our subconciousness . Could it be thats perhaps she's seen a glimpse of your potential beauty in the making and now only wants to be a part of it ? You may have prompted and awoken something in her .... BUT I don't think it's something worth worry about .At least her projection towards you crossdressing ISN'Tdisbelief , horror or disgust , confusion for sure , but a wanting to understand . She wants to understand and support her man . I hate to use my own experience's ( sometimes feels as if I'm bragging , as I feel for those who are not so lucky ) but you have a chance here to move foward here together . Why not ask her to help you in the style and choice of how you dress ? You mentioned money being tight , now that I can relate to all too well , but why not both of you sit down , surf ebay , visit shops that are cheaper . Ask her if she'll spend sometime together maybe , why not suggest if she'll let you give each other a slight make over , praps show off youre favourite outfits ? I 'm trying to post one thing here I think , it's the ideal whatever you do - do it TOGETHER . Over 6 years ago when I came out ( golly looking back my outfits , looks and over entusiastic manner - something to consider for sure ) to my wife , it was such a scarey unstable period . At first there were very obvious quiet moments . We needed gentle moments together in each others company , nothing too heavy . So , to lighten the situation I asked my partner to dress up , we sat down shared a pizza , a glass of wine . I just wanted her to feel special , spoil her rotten . We even played board games to ease the new tension. Whatever , I just wanted one thing - to move on in honesty at her pace . And that was so hard , often with me being over excited , over zealous , I think at times being a little too much . I asked my wife to let me know if my attitude became a little over bearing . However , those new moments are now looked back on by both of us . And to be honest with a degree of fondness .
I think it's a rather scarey time , the uncertainess , the excited anticipation of having come clean , being accepted and hoping for it to continue . I'm sure together you'll both have fun , an understanding and a meeting of the minds , personalities and warmth for each other that lasts for years to come .
Good luck , and look after each other .