t.o.f., Whilst I'm sorry to hear of your experiences with a selfish lover I should point out that being a crossdresser doesn't make us mind readers. I'm sorry if that appears harsh, but your lover upset you when he confided "that's how I want you to make love to me" so why didn't you state your feelings. That it wasn't what you wanted and then explain what you did want.
You had the strength to end the relationship (Good for you, never settle for unhappiness) but did he not ask why? Did you never explain to him the feelings you expressed in your initial post? Did he know he was causing you pain and didn't care - or did you assume he should have known?
I sincerely hope that you can move on from this unhappy experience and find lasting happiness, but please don't ever just 'put-up' with something that makes you uncomfortable. Share your feelings. Your opinion counts.
Zoe
