Conditioned responses. Things that someone assumes to be true about a group because they have been told it is so, over and over and over.
In actuality, they gay label comes mostly from what people see in the media. RuPaul's drag race. Movies like Too Wong Foo. Every group has them. Hypersexuality, militant, miserly, slow, intelligent, tall, angry, dirty. Choose anyone and see what pops into your mind. Now when you talk to a person in that group you may immediately have that idea pop into your mind also. And that person may have been accused of said stereotype so many times they feel they need to dispel it even before it comes up (even if the person they meet isn't thinking that). There have been several threads with what to expect to hear when you come out and as noted the gay question is almost always first. Women ask it out of fear, guys ask either because they are afraid or they see a new conquest (because they don't think it is gay to have sexual relations with a man who is wearing a dress...it is just a normal thing after all, they aren't really attracted to men but men who look female...why they can believe it isn't a man.)
I don't like the disclaimer stated well in advance of the question being asked. It does smack of homophobia. But I understand that most here are already scared and confused and have their defenses up all the time.
Let me try one here. Evil- car salesperson. See preconceived notions
