Confused young person seeking advise .

[kimdl93]

I played hs and college football at defensive end and to this day, I'm something of a gym rat. I've cut back on the heavy weights, but still like to maintain muscle tone and overall cardo fitness. As a result, my shoulders are probably a bit of a give away. Still, I don't dress (completely) in public and I like the way my clothes fit and look (other than my waist still needs work!) Don't sweat it. wear jackets or loose sweaters to cover the arms and you'll look fine!

[Tricia Lee]

There was a female body builder on TLC's "What Not to Wear" a while back. Here are some links to the show that might give you some inspiration:

http://videos.howstuffworks.com/tlc/...-big-video.htm
http://www.sidereel.com/What_Not_to_...n-9/episode-24
http://blogs.discovery.com/tlc-what-...for-vikki.html

[AmandaM]

If you like the power-lifting, do it while you can. Just get some clothes, etc. that you can wear in private, etc. since you won't pass right now. As you get older, you can think about trimming down. I wouldn't give up one for the other if you like both. Unless you're a transsexual or something.

[christina s]

wow. Dont be sad. I have had to learn that over the years. This is something that we all do for enjoyment. Mine is mostly sexual, but the urge to dress is still the urge to dress.

I too come from a positive family and am a retired professional athlete. I dread anyone in my family circle even remotely finding out. (not including my wife who knows, and has fun with it with me) I understand. You seem to be doing a fine job, but at that size, you must have a hard time finding sexy clothes that fit. lol.

I was in a very masculine sport, and secretly dressed for a very long time. At times it helped releive the pressure of big events. Of course I did not want to be found out, but what you do privately is your own affair. Good luck.

Finding clothes is a bitch !There's not many girls out there with a 36 inch waist and a 50 inch chest ....

Hi Christina,

First of all, ignore those who think you can't get rid of the muscle in order to achieve a feminine look. I've seen photos of girls who have been into bodybuilding and sports who have done it. If you want to do it badly enough, you can do it.

And also ignore those who tell you that it would be a shame to give up your lifting. If it isn't what YOU want, then you're wasting your time with lifting. Don't do it because you think it's what you're supposed to want. I fell into that trap in high school. Because I'm tall, I let others sway me into going out for basketball, and I really didn't like it, but I did it because I thought that I was supposed to want to do that, so I tried living up to what others told me I should be instead of who I knew I was.

If you have access to a therapist who specializes in transgender issues, you might want to see what they can do to help you figure out what you want to do. I urge you very strongly to NOT wait another year, life is surprisingly short, you'll see that very clearly when you're older, don't waste a second of it.

Carol

Thank you so much Carol .

The next big thing for me is to figure if i'm still doing this for me , or doing it for other people . To the others , i'm not interested in transitioning i like being a guy i would just like to somewhat decent and not like this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vkbYN0apd9U

[ashlylynn]

A - Know that there are 3 kinds of xdressers ( this does not include true transgenders - you seem to like being a guy )
--- 1 xdressing RUNS/IS their life ... ( compulsion )
--- 2 xdressing is a PART of their life ...
--- 3 xdressing is something they use to ENHANCE their life - blow off stress - have a fantasy - RELAX - etc.

Seems you are # 3

Plan a vacation to another town.
--Shop at bargain stores for boring outfits CHEAP.
--Buy your shoes, wig, cosmetics on eBay
or
---- Buy unisex shoes and clothes

Bring your camera to the motel - have a blast.
In the meantime, post some photos here for feedback.
You can censor your face if you're a little bid scared.



Lots of women have some muscle and look great ...but not THIS one ...

http://www.eatliver.com/img/2007/2637.jpg

[Julogden]

A - Know that there are 3 kinds of xdressers ( this does not include true transgenders - you seem to like being a guy )
--- 1 xdressing RUNS/IS their life ... ( compulsion )
--- 2 xdressing is a PART of their life ...
--- 3 xdressing is something they use to ENHANCE their life - blow off stress - have a fantasy - RELAX - etc.

Seems you are # 3

Plan a vacation to another town.
--Shop at bargain stores for boring outfits CHEAP.
--Buy your shoes, wig, cosmetics on eBay
or
---- Buy unisex shoes and clothes

Bring your camera to the motel - have a blast.
In the meantime, post some photos here for feedback.
You can censor your face if you're a little bid scared.



Lots of women have some muscle and look great ...but not THIS one ...

http://www.eatliver.com/img/2007/2637.jpg

Hi Ashlynn,

With your three categories of CD's, you've done some serious pigeonholing and ignored the fact that CD'ing encompasses a continuum of behaviors that blends into other classes of transgender identity, not to mention insulting some of us by labeling the behavior of some people as being compulsive just because they incorporate crossdressing into their everyday life. I won't get into your definition of "transgender" other to say that the current accepted definition differs from yours.


Carol

[christina s]

I just wanted to thank everyone so much .

Everyone's response helped me put things into perspective .So far i've decided that i'm going to stay in powerlifting since these are my prime years but im going to try and compromise by cutting down to 220ish so i can improve my chance of finding some decent looking clothes for my fem side while still competing . I just wanted to ask one more quick question does anyone have any experience with http://www.crossdresser.com/? For the time being i would rather invest in clothes that i could be confident in then buy from thrifts stores and be not really sure with how they're going to fit , look.

[Julogden]

Hi again, Christina,

I stumbled across a video tonight that you'll probably find interesting, check it out.

Carol