My wife knows of my cross-dressing. She does not like it, and, she does not want to discuss it. I tried to reassure her that my cross-dressing has nothing to do with her. Somehow she (and probably other gg's) figure there must be something lacking in the relationship because I cross-dress. On the conscious level?- I don't think so. During a heated argument she once threatened to tell all the relatives and the world I was a cross-dresser. Frankly, I do not trust her to keep my secret. She has her own dark secrets, which I do not think I would tell anyone about. However, she wishes she never told me her secrets so she could pretend to be the 'pure' woman without any hangups.
My marriage has been a one way street from the start. She made demands and requests that I relented to out of love. Looking back I gave in on significant issues, always figuring the next issue of any consequence would justify giving in on everything from where we live, the church, employment, etc.
So, if she would demand that I 'give up' cross-dressing, it ain't happening. I've never asked her to participate, and, would never even allow her to participate if she asked. If she changed her mind after participating, it would be thrown back in my face. Frankly, my wife is more concerned about what other would think about me/us, than what I feel about cross-dressing. Having a non supportive, hostile wife about a significant part of a cross-dresser's inner self is a recipe for disaster.
