Accepting Significant Others

[prettytoes]

My wife foud out just a few weeks ago (as I'm sure many of you have read!). She fealt a little betrayed, but the worse part was how she felt of herself as being "so naive" for all those years. I had several pairs of womens panties...I just told her they fit better and were more comfortable. I explained that she wasn't dumb, or blind; just that I had kept it very well hidden. I have come to realize that she loves me...all of me...no matter what. After the initial shock and awe, she is becomming very accepting of my other self. I explained to her that dressing just makes me feel good and puts me in a happy place. She has requested some boundries, which I have no problem honoring. I think with time these will ease. She is a wonderful woman, and I love her now more than ever!

[PretzelGirl]

This is going to be different across the board as we are all different people with differently developed relationships.

For my wife, I feel it is just that we love each other for who we are. We have both been through many changes during our marraige (I started long after we were married). But the same basic love for each other has always been there. So we don't try and change each other and really, the core of who we are never really changes.

[Scotty]

I think upbringing has a lot to do with it but if a person truly loves you and took the time to get to know you then they may likely be supportive.

I think religion has a lot to do with it also - and I don't mean believing in God vs going to church, a "Lot" of churchgoing members I have known over the years have never tolerated anyone...rather funny how that is.
Yet a lot of people I know that believe in God and have church in their own way have no problem accepting.

My So is just amazing, she knew, but as the original poster said, my SO said the same thing.

I'm not 100% femme either, 50/50 so it's not challenging her whatsoever.

[t-girlxsophie]

Made mistakes in my first marriage and I was determined that If I was ever lucky enough to find someone to share my life with,I wasn't going to make the same mistakes.I was determined to be the best partner I could be,My Wife and I met online and she knew straight away I Crossdressed we talked for a frew months and even when we finally met we waited before we introduced her to Sophie,And her wonderful reaction that time was a sign of things to come,so I think we gave our relationship the best possible start I told her then that I would never take her acceptance for granted,My Wife has never felt her femininity or her womanhood was threatened by my dressing,And she has always said I'm the same good person,no matter what I happen to be wearing.Even though we are going through some tough times due to Illness our love and respect for each other is as strong as it was the first time we met.

Sophie

[Stefia S]

My wife becoming more accepting of my going out crossdressed, but she's said she's not quite ready to see me in person or in pictures en femme. In time, I'm sure - I'm taking this at her pace.

We've discussed how I tend to take a masculine role in most things, except for in our relationship, where I tend to adopt what is conventionally a feminine role. So given that I want to express that feminine side of me, externally, makes some sense to her.

[Sue101]

Due to ignorance some women make the wrong assumption that a man's crossdressing is somehow related to her own femininity. It is not dissimilar to women thinking that as they age their partners will automatically seek out younger women. For sure, those with insecutities will think their partners behavior reflects something about them when it doesn't.

My wife is girly so is not threatened by my femininity but when I first met her she was presenting as a tomboy along with the girls she hung out with. My style reawakened her joy for femininity and she has not looked back since. But I know of women who think femininity as a negative thing, that it makes women subservient to men and girly girls are traitors to the modern sisterhood. So there is an obvious clash between women who have abandoned femininity and crossdressers who celebrate it.

[kimdl93]

I could only speculate about why some SOs accept and other can't. Experience has shown, however, that an SO is far more likely to be accepting if she learns before entering into a committed relationship. Probably for two reasons: 1) she's making the commitment with her eyes open and 2) it demonstrates that the CD is capable of being open and honest about even the deepest secrets.