I had the opposite problem today. I have a 5 day pass for a local Gym and I was left to use the ladies' locker rooms. Two problems, they are open plan and I am pre-op
I took the safe solution and asked for permission to use the disabled facility which is for single occupancy.
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Galileo said "You cannot teach a man anything" and they accuse ME of being sexist :facepalm:
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There are State laws for "Sticky Bathroom/Restrooms"?? Wish there had been when I was younger!!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
I had a quick scan through, but didn't see a mention... does anyone know the laws for this in England? When I first came across this forum it was trying to find out just this... and I never did. I really want to know, as someone who will likely spend quite a bit of time out girlmode in times to come.
I don't believe that there are specific laws relating to which toilets you use, but I have always operated on the basis that I go to whichever facilities reflect my gender presentation. I have even had a female member of staff despatched to help me when I had difficulty getting into the ladies through a recalcitrant turnstile at a main-line station. This was when I was cross-dressing before I began my transition.
Funnily enough I have only had someone try to discourage me from using the ladies' loo once - that was roughly 10 months into my transition and they suggested that I might want to use the disabled facility in their shopping mall. Since I only wanted to sort out a wardrobe malfunction I didn't argue the toss.
If you are transitioning, then you are also protected by the Equalities Act 2010. For example where I work, when there was a discussion about which toilets I should use, the head of HR said that the law was quite clear that since I was becoming a woman, I must be allowed to use the same facilities as every other woman in the building. No-one has made even the tiniest fuss about it either.
Last edited by Rianna Humble; 08-26-2011 at 07:28 PM. Reason: Clarity
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Galileo said "You cannot teach a man anything" and they accuse ME of being sexist :facepalm:
Never ascribe to malice that which can be easily explained by sheer stupidity
In New Jersey US, the state law says you can use the restroom of the gender you present yourself as.. the keyword in the books is gender expression. Transgender people are protected by law. I use the womens room and never had a problem.
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My problem lies in that I'm not transitioning and it'd be a case of worrying about what might happen in a club- would I be dragged out of the girls' or get ripped on in the mens? Yeesh, that'd be a poor situation to be in even with martial arts at my disposal.
My experience from before starting my transition (admittedly not in clubs) would tend to suggest that you would not be dragged out provided you go in there and act like any other woman in those circumstances - do the necessary sitting in the cubicle, wash your hands, maybe freshen your make-up ...Originally Posted by InLucidReverie
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Galileo said "You cannot teach a man anything" and they accuse ME of being sexist :facepalm:
Never ascribe to malice that which can be easily explained by sheer stupidity
Another option stated above is to use single seaters when possible. I think nearly all Starbucks have single, just an FYI.
ALWAYS sit; if you don't your feet are pointing the wrong way! A nice touch that mimics a female mannerism is to krinkle toilet paper before flushing.
Definately use the bathroom most appropriate to how you are dressed. I always have, and have never had a problem.
I'm moving to Nevada soon (Reno). Is it now legal for me to use the woman bathroom when presenting as a woman? Thanks to all who respond.
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