It should be transgender or crossdresser, that way people can more immediately get "oh, it's gender identity" or "oh, it's a sexual inclination, like a fetish."
Everyone seems to assume that those two are mutually exclusive. Isn't it possible that gender identity issues gave rise to a sexual inclination? Or... maybe a sexual inclination gave rise to a gender identity issue?
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.