Tammy and Marla,
It's awful to read how lonely you are both feeling, emotionally alienated from the women you love just because you've tried to be open and honest with them about who you are. I can only imagine the fear and worry you must have felt before telling them, and how deep in despair you must now be that it hasn't delivered the happy resolution you so desired.
I wish I had some words of consolation for you, but instead, if you don't mind, I have a few questions for you both:
1) Do you think that you would have been able to keep this part of your life secret from your partners indefinitely?
2) If so, would you have really felt happy, despite the stress of keeping this secret?
3) Is there really nothing positive you can think of that's resulted from being honest with your partners?
It takes strength and courage to be an honest person, qualities you both obviously have, and that will surely help you both get through your problems.
Take care,
