My SO and I actually have reversed reactions to this, which is quite ironic. I feel actual physical pain at the thought of him having to hide any aspect of himself from someone he loved and committed his life to (his first wife) and he's very "meh" about it. He would be willing to "shut down", as he put it, all this and delete every file, bookmark, picture and never look back. That thought kills me. That, to me, would be like cutting out a very real part of him and giving me just a piece rather than a fabulous whole. I wonder if she feels insecure or threatened. I did. I wondered if he'd want me as a woman when he already had that covered (my ignorance speaking there). Somehow I developed amnesia about all the time he spent making me feel very desirable as a woman before I knew so why would that very baseless thought exist? Again. My ignorance.
