The risk for a closet CD going out dressed

[Yvonne York]

I am still mostly closeted.

Yesterday on the way home I was involved in an accident. I am okay - only harm is some soreness and two strawberries on one knee, and some minor control issues with the fingers on one hand - but improving fast.

As for the car - well, it won't be going down the road again unless it is on a wrecker. It could have been much worse, and I could have been dressed.

But, it made me stop to think about something my wife has said a couple times. She has expressed fear that I go out dressed in case something happens. She is afraid that if something happens - an accident or a ticket, or some other issue crops up, that I may embarrass her or my daughters if I am found dressed as Karen or even under dressed.

I would never want to embarrass any of them but have an extreme urge to occasionally get out en-femme.

Do any of you harbor similar fears? Does your SO express similar fears? How do you handle it?

My wife warns me regularly when I go out underdressed. And yes, it does worry me, but I feel so good with my bra and sexy lingerie on, it's a risk I'll take.

[Veronica27]

So, now your justification for not trusting your SO is that you don't want to tell her now in case she finds out after you die that you hid this aspect of yourself from her all your life and thinks less well of you because of the hiding?

I've seen quite a few justifications for not trusting your SO - including a whole list of mysoginistic BS, but I think this one takes the prize for wierd logic.

This is a little bit harsh, and belittles the fears that all crossdressers have at times, because of their needs and desires. Telling people that you are a crossdresser is not as simple as telling them you prefer your eggs over easy. Crossdressers frequent these forums to seek advice and help, not to be ridiculed.

The quote in your post is incomplete in that it is a response to another posting which mentions difficulties encountered upon finding out things about a deceased relative, and was particularly concerned about the effects upon children.

Some people are able to take a "who care's" attitude and do whatever they please, while others feel the responsibility to harness their own desires for the sake of loved ones. We need to display our compassionate qualities which is more in line with why most claim to crossdress in the first place. Femininity.

Veronica

[JLynn17]

Omg I know how you feel, I just went to store wearing panties underneath, and when I got into the store I soooo totaly started freaking out thinking I had holes in my jeans and every one was looking! then on way home I am like OMG what if i get pulled over and have to go to jail wearing panties lol... I mean I "want" to get caught some day, but being outted and random is not my plan...