Hands off buddy.

[Chickhe]

Happened to me at the party the other night...my butt was grabbed and my wife's also...she just just said...you live with it and I kind of had the same attitude since it is a party and people are a bit drunk and acting silly. The breast thing also hppened, a GG asked how I filled the cups and I said foam padding, she said, can I feel? and a said sure, but when she touched them, I said, 'now I get to feel yours?'....didn;t happen, but she got the point she was polite to ask. I could have said no. It is an odd situation, but I figure if it is done in a positive way, then you might as well be nice and let them...apparently woman do ask stuff like that even to GGs...its all part of the we're on the same team attitude.

[Imeni]

I got a one inch prelit fuse when it comes to that. The only person who can just randomly place hands on me is my woman. And only because, as long as I use tact and know when its not ok, I get the same sort of rules applied to myself *meaning her, although, lets face it. myself*. XD

I don't leave my house en fem, hardly ever leaves the bedroom. But i refuse to have that sort of buisness go down when im around and people know it. I swing first, explain later. It helps my uncle is a police officer and I get alot of slack for it, but my point is still valid. That is not ok here, not ok there. When people just shrug it off and say, "Let it be. It happens.", They are allowing others to see their actions as acceptable and they will do it again.

Maybe this is Faux Pah here, but I don't get it. Alot of you ladies here, like it or not, are men. Ask yourself, if you saw someone do that to your SO, would you let it go? Or would you roll up the sleeves? on your dress and go put down 50 on the right hook to the man's teeth? Booze and lack of action leave these actions to be seen as acceptable to others. So why would you just let it go because your out in lady form tonite? I know alot of women who are disturbingly stronger than myself, with a shorter fuse. I would love to be there the day some guy decided to grab a handful of backside on one of them. She'd come home with an ear as a trophy, im sure.

[Nicole Erin]

when I was married, my wife had the audacity to spank or pinch my ass often. When I told her not to do that, she said, "It is MY ass and I can do what i want". Well, alright, we were married, i suppose it is forgivable.

But on the serious side - yeah clubs and bars are kind of gross. You get the drunk guys who think they are Casanova and can grope anything that looks female. That and then you also have the other weirdos - the guys who sit like a statue against the wall, the loud drunk college chick who wants to yell and scream, and the middle age trashy looking drunk woman who slurs about wanting to kick peoples' asses.

But yeah when you live as a woman either on weekends or every day, you find out just how men act. Now me, I guess enough people think I "pass" and all, of course the men don't pay me much attention cause i am not 21 years old nor am I a size 4.

[Christina Horton]

Only once. If had people when I tell them I'm a a CD they ask about my breasts and I tell them. Only one person asked to touch them. When I went to my 20 high school reunion an old friend ( a GG ) asked if she could touch them. I said sure if I can touch yours too. She said yes and we had fun touching each other. Lol. Buy I would never allow any one in a bar or anywhere to do that. They would get a slap or worse.....

So should you allow this to happen just because your a man in a dress..... HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jorja]

A quick punch to the head will cure this situation. They are not expecting it and get what they deserve. Remember, you are a man in a dress.

[donnalee]

This kind of behavior legally constitutes assault and you are entitled to defend yourself in any way you see fit (although shooting or stabbing him might get you talked about).
One technique that works quite well is to grab the little finger of the offending hand and bend it backwards. This will force him to his knees or break the finger at which point you may convince him to modify his behavior. This also works well for GGs as it doesn't require much strength. A spike heel to his instep will also work nicely.

[Sherry Lynn]

I usually pull one of the forms out and say "here, you can play with it if you like. But please wash it off before you give it back." That usually cures them.

[Chickhe]

I want to add, sure we all know its wrong (to touch someone without their permission), but their is a time and place for everything (how you respond, I mean). At a party, a quick poke or squeeze is not meant to be sexual...its more like a pat on the back for a job well done. If the person has bad intentions, that's a different matter, but any person I ever met was nice about it and its mutual fun. The worst thing to do is overreact, it makes you out to be the bad guy and ruins your fun and everyone else's. If the one doing the deed was rude, unwelcome and was loitering around then by all means have the bouncer drag them away by their ---------.

I suspect most people would not touch you if you said firmly, 'no way' when they first asked.

[Bootsiegalore]

I have been out with some of my lesbian friends to clubs and to private parties and I find them to be much more touchy feeley! Rubbin' just aint for racin'! Lots of grab ass and rubbin. I think it is amusing! I am always getting ny ass grabbed and my legs rubbed!

[Stephenie S]

To all you macho he-men out there. Your testosterone is showing!

Violence is NEVER the proper response unless your life is being threatened.

"I'd punch his lights out", works well in the movies, when you're talking to your drinking buds, or if the other person is smaller than you. But that's not always the case.

S

[Lynn Marie]

[SIZE="4"]I'm thinking that maybe you folks are frequenting the wrong kinds of clubs. I've never been groped or treated disrespecfully. On the contrary, I'm usually the one admiring the girls of the girls. The amazing part is that the ladies love the attention and more often than not encourage me to grope a little, and do likewise! Golly, what an uptight bunch you all hang out with![/SIZE]

[EllieOPKS]

I don't do a lot of clubbing but I don't tolerate being touched, period. With or without my panties on it's a great way to get your bell rung, just saying.

[Jamsey]

Thank you all for your comments and opinions. As always, there is a wide variety of responses, very interesting and intriguing. I thought about the slap to the face, only with a closed fist, but figured it would not be worth the trouble.
Whenever I go out, I have a very strict 2 drink limit that I cannot remember the last time I violated. So, I do not get drunk. I like this club, it is the only place so far where I can go dressed and actually feel comfortable, and not feel ostracized. I even danced a little last time. It is heavily gay, with a lot of very good looking, testoserone oozing, fun loving young men dancing and prancing around. There is also occaionally some teddy bear men??????. All types, including the cruisers, yeech. Lots of women too of all persusasions. They have a lot of drags shows, the performers are very good. Lots of straights go too for the shows. A very eclectic mix. I'm slowing coming out of the corner at the place. That said, the only really bad experience, was the groping, which, in that circumstance, I believed I handle appropriately. But I did not like it. Again, thank you all, a learning experience.

[Jamsey]

Oh, I should add I am not a bar person. I go to my local pub occasionally to watch the Packers, drab, of course. They have some excellent Wisconsin microbrews on tap, I drink the seasonals usually, again, no more than two. They have an very good, free, make your own, taco bar, available during the Packer game, which is the real reason I go, I think. lol. If someone there, groped a female, hmmm, they would be immediately tossed out, and probably, well definitely, not to gently.

[UNDERDRESSER]

Maybe you should try my sister's response? She checked HIM out, Crocodile Dundee style, hard.

[VanessaJCD]

At the halloween party I just attended as a cheerleader, all the GG's came up and felt my breasts. I just had fun with it and stuck them out. I think they just wanted to know what I stuffed them with.. Thing is, I didn't try to pretend to be anything else but a man in woman's clothing so they were probably more comfortable doing it.

[Sally24]

This kind of behavior legally constitutes assault and you are entitled to defend yourself in any way you see fit.

Not true in many states. An appropriate response is allowed. In many clubs you would both be escorted out and possible arrested if you fight. The bouncers in my clubs look out for us and will do their job with creeps like this.

[victoriamwilliams1]

That has not happen to me and I would not know how to deal with it myself! I guess people have a touchy feeling like they do with pregnant women. However if they where real or not in the eyes of the law that is considered a sexual assault especially with out permission; however that is not the intention so again I am also lost. Now I will say I would be flattered.

[Presh GG]

Stephanie S.

Oh bulltwattle.,Say WHAT ?

Do you realize Cindyo IS a GG ?
So your response was way OFL.

Presh GG

[donnalee]

Not true in many states. An appropriate response is allowed. In many clubs you would both be escorted out and possible arrested if you fight. The bouncers in my clubs look out for us and will do their job with creeps like this.

You must be in Massachusets

[Sissy_in_pink]

Maybe they weren't breast fed as a baby, so they feel deprived

[Philippa Jane]

I cannot imagine my reaction if this were to happen to me.
I absolutely hate anybody touching me at anytime and especially strangers and this is in drab.

[AllieSF]

I go out a lot to all kinds of places. I have never had that happen to me, nor heard of it happening to a GG. I am not saying that it does not happen, but I do not think as often as some of the posters make it appear. Maybe out here in the San Francisco Bay area the bars control the gropers better. I have had people, mostly women and some men ask if my breasts were real or not. Thankfully, no one has ever asked nor tried to touch them. As I recommended in your other thread, I would mention it every time that it happens to your friendly bar tender and point out the offending person. That is the only way to get the establishment behind you. If it is a successful club, they sure do not want to be shut down because of sexual harassment charges. I have no problem telling someone to back off, like right now if they get too insulting.