Quote Originally Posted by docrobbysherry View Post
Basically, we're mostly guys here. U can't hurt our feelings THAT easily. And if, in a few cases u do, we'll get over it in no time! I haven't read anything that hurt mine!


SweetPea, Shannon and other GGs. Here's why we often seem immature. For many CDs, they've thot about they're dressing urges on and off their entire lives. Rejecting, then resisting, then dressing, then starting this cycle all over again and again. FINALLY, they get to a point where they fully embrace they're inner fem feelings. The fite is over! Then, they show up here. They're so giddy to finally be who they've WANTED TO BE for years AND they r accepted here! I can't describe the relief, satisfaction, and joy we provide each other here. Something many of us can't get ANYWHERE ELSE! Many of us keep our secret lives entirely to ourselves outside the Web! OF COURSE we want to show off!

Remember back to that first junior hi, or hi school dance of yours? U were all made up and dressed to the 9's for the very first time and u looked in the mirror. Looking back was this BEAUTIFUL YOUNG WOMAN!
And, u went out knowing u looked gorgeous! Wanting everyone to see the beauty u had become! Well, THAT'S HOW IT IS for some of us!
Immature? Yes! Think of us as young teens because many of us FEEL like that! I've been dressing for 15 years. Yet, I'm just beginning to go out as Sherry. It's kind of like a young teen finding out who she is! And, LOOKS MATTER!
Which is a COMPLETE OTHER aspect of dressing that is like looking into the mirror the first time! Seeing the reaction, rejection or acceptance, of our alter egos in public! Further validation some of us need. However, many NEVER develope the courage or desire to leave our closets dressed!

Lastly, SweetPea, have u ever heard the expression, "If momma ain't happy, ain't NOBODY happy!"?
A happy marriage should be a 50/50 partnership. Sharing and communicating with each other so partners can work out the bumps with compromises that either work or re-worked until they do!
When my marriage reached a point where compromises weren't possible anymore, we separated! Then, divorced.
I suggest both u and your SO need marriage counseling immediately! Because it sounds as if your communication and compromising has become all one sided! And, "Momma ain't happy!"
I'll bet your marital problems r NOT all about CDing either!
I really like how you related this back to GGs and talked about it in a way from our experiences. I definitely know how exciting it can be to go out and look cute and want to show off. (It didn't end at junior high haha). But, I still think it's interesting that there are threads that are like, "What underwear do you wear? What's your favorite?" Underwear is pretty cute and all, but I don't really talk to my friends about them. I remember when I got my first thong...I was in high school. It was pretty tacky...it was like this silk zebra print thong...it looked like something a male stripper would wear haha! But, I went with a friend and we felt pretty scandalous about buying this "sexy" underwear. The only conversation that we had really about it was that we wanted to wear low-cut jeans so our boyfriend's could see it. (We were like 14...give me a break lol). And, we also talked about how we were going to hide it in the laundry. My mom found my thong one day and said, "Well, I hope you didn't spend $10 on these." It totally wasn't a big deal. And, that's about when my underwear conversations stopped...I realized they weren't a big deal. My friend and I were talking about the VS fashion show recently and somehow this got to conversations on cheekies versus thongs. We both decided that they were nice, but she said thongs just weren't as comfortable (frontal wedgie potential). And, I recommended a brand that I wear (that's not VS). But, I never get into convos with my friends about what they are wearing, what color, what style... It reminds me of way back in the day when chat rooms were cool. These pervie men would message me privately and say, "ASL?" (Age, Sex, Location). And, I would say, "Uhmmm hi...I'm 15/F/AL." Immediately afterwards it would be, "What color underwear are you wearing?" It was fun to mess with them with, "Knee length boxers in magenta and gold...there's a stain on the back of them though." I always wondered like WHY the color of my underwear? I think women are hot too...and, I think my SO is hot dressed. But, I don't really care what style or underwear she wears. I know it's a big deal to some CDs....but, like...why is it thread worthy? And, perhaps, we will never know. But, it does bring me back to those "ASL and what color panties are you wearing" days.

Again, I really liked reading your response and I could definitely relate