There is absolutely no two ways about it, not getting physical with the man was the right thing to do. In the eyes of the law, you would be the guilty party because you were the first one to get physical and there was no evidence of self defense. You would have gotten the worst of it in the end, I guarantee it.
I agree with Momarie though, that was still an unkind comment to make about the wife who committed no transgression. Is the fact she is fat or unattractive to most automatically make her a bad person unworthy of love, someone to be "saddled" with as punishment? Maybe I am being a bit sensitive here, but on more than one occasion people have said the same thing about me (because I am fat/ugly I am unworthy of love.) If we want to be accepted as we are, we should be accepting of others as they are. Just something to think about.
