Originally Posted by
Sara Jessica
These statements really cut to the heart of my point. If one is read as being trans-whatever as they live their day-to-day life as female, then what is the point in trying to make that separation and/or disassociation from the larger community. No one else is going to do you that favor.
Julia, Kate, and anyone else whose female identity is in a similar place, I would be the last person to say anyone needs to hold on to their trans card. You are women, terrific. I hope that your everyday life doesn't betray the trans in any way. This is of course your perfect stealth, that you have moved on and simply live your lives as the women you are.
And if you keep one foot in the trans community, even if only an online forum such as this, terrific as well. I'm sure your life experiences help many others who might be following on a similar path. But please know that some of that tough love wears really thin and does in fact come across as if you are on top of the trans-heap, having placed yourselves there through whatever rite of passage you choose to justify.
There's been statements made that those who are not full-timers move on and others which intimate that maybe those exasperated full timers should move on themselves. I have an easy solution. No one should move on. If you are a woman and the world knows you as nothing but, then by all means you have already moved on. But in trans circles, you are still as trans as the rest of us whether you wish to admit it or not.
